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SO UPSET! MIL strikes again!
She has put my unborn baby in potential danger, not to mention my husband! I have HAD IT WITH HER!!!
Some of you may know that I have had issues with my MIL in the past. We do NOT get along at all. She is an awful human being. But this is the last straw!
She has been trying to sell her house for 3 years now, and after all my surgeries and fertility treatments and not being able to work for the better part of those same three years, we amassed a lot of debt. When she first put her house on the market we helped her out by COMPLETELY fixing up the inside for her (she didn't lift a finger!). Unfortunately, the outside was still attrocious and in a sad, sad state and it never sold because she is a greedy bi+ch! Dh convinced her to let us stay here for a year or two while he waited for schools to start hiring again and he could get a decent teaching job. This was not done out of any sort of kind gesture to me, just to her beloved son who she wants to marry herself which is why she wants me out of the picture (I wish I was kidding or exagerating!). In return for staying here we would fix up the exterior. I have a background in horticulture and planned to completely redo the landscaping (until I got pregnant), and he was going to paint the exterior. If we continued to stay the second year there were even plans to redo the deck and more. She would definitely be the one making out with all the free labor, and then she could put the house back on the market later when the economy turned around and for a higher price with all the upgrades.
Well, I am 8 weeks pregnant and for the past 4 weeks dh has been scraping the house. I even intended to help him scrape but working on my feet all day at my job is about all I've had the energy for. There are paint chips EVERYWHERE! Including on the front doorstep. My dog walks by those and the dust they create, and my cat is always in the bushes. They have certainly tracked the dust into the house and into our bed and on our couches. Not to mention we've opened the windows some days and I'm sure the dust is coming into the air we breathe. I've been after dh to clean up the paint chips from the start but he's in such a rush to get it painted while it's still warm that he figured he'd clean up later - it doesn't matter if it's cold to clean up.
My parents called today and told us they were chatting with a friend at church and apparently their friend's son put a bid in for this house a couple years back. Turns out lead was discovered in all the exterior paint - high enough that she was supposed to replace the siding all together or come down on the price so they could pay someone to do it. My cheap @ss MIL refused to do anything about it or come down on the price, so they retracted their bid. I am BEYOND furious and upset right now! I swear if she was here I'd punch her in the head I'm that angry! What is WRONG with this woman? What mother in her right mind would let her son scrape her lead filled house and not even WARN him to wear a mask!!!! Are you kidding me?!!!? Not to mention a son who has a newly pregnant wife who's the furthest along in a pregnancy that we've ever had in THREE years of trying!!??!
I know my pregnancy hormones have been RAGING the last couple of days and I have been lets just say "less than stable" but this is ridiculous. I am so upset. I'm trying to calm down for the sake of my baby (or potentially babIES - we'll know Thurs!), but so help me god that woman better get on her knees and start praying that either my baby or babies are not born with any birth defects!
Some of you may know that I have had issues with my MIL in the past. We do NOT get along at all. She is an awful human being. But this is the last straw!
She has been trying to sell her house for 3 years now, and after all my surgeries and fertility treatments and not being able to work for the better part of those same three years, we amassed a lot of debt. When she first put her house on the market we helped her out by COMPLETELY fixing up the inside for her (she didn't lift a finger!). Unfortunately, the outside was still attrocious and in a sad, sad state and it never sold because she is a greedy bi+ch! Dh convinced her to let us stay here for a year or two while he waited for schools to start hiring again and he could get a decent teaching job. This was not done out of any sort of kind gesture to me, just to her beloved son who she wants to marry herself which is why she wants me out of the picture (I wish I was kidding or exagerating!). In return for staying here we would fix up the exterior. I have a background in horticulture and planned to completely redo the landscaping (until I got pregnant), and he was going to paint the exterior. If we continued to stay the second year there were even plans to redo the deck and more. She would definitely be the one making out with all the free labor, and then she could put the house back on the market later when the economy turned around and for a higher price with all the upgrades.
Well, I am 8 weeks pregnant and for the past 4 weeks dh has been scraping the house. I even intended to help him scrape but working on my feet all day at my job is about all I've had the energy for. There are paint chips EVERYWHERE! Including on the front doorstep. My dog walks by those and the dust they create, and my cat is always in the bushes. They have certainly tracked the dust into the house and into our bed and on our couches. Not to mention we've opened the windows some days and I'm sure the dust is coming into the air we breathe. I've been after dh to clean up the paint chips from the start but he's in such a rush to get it painted while it's still warm that he figured he'd clean up later - it doesn't matter if it's cold to clean up.
My parents called today and told us they were chatting with a friend at church and apparently their friend's son put a bid in for this house a couple years back. Turns out lead was discovered in all the exterior paint - high enough that she was supposed to replace the siding all together or come down on the price so they could pay someone to do it. My cheap @ss MIL refused to do anything about it or come down on the price, so they retracted their bid. I am BEYOND furious and upset right now! I swear if she was here I'd punch her in the head I'm that angry! What is WRONG with this woman? What mother in her right mind would let her son scrape her lead filled house and not even WARN him to wear a mask!!!! Are you kidding me?!!!? Not to mention a son who has a newly pregnant wife who's the furthest along in a pregnancy that we've ever had in THREE years of trying!!??!
I know my pregnancy hormones have been RAGING the last couple of days and I have been lets just say "less than stable" but this is ridiculous. I am so upset. I'm trying to calm down for the sake of my baby (or potentially babIES - we'll know Thurs!), but so help me god that woman better get on her knees and start praying that either my baby or babies are not born with any birth defects!
Listen! WTF!! It took you this long to get pregnant,,, And this B&#*@ knew... Man!! Im but and hour and 1/2 away.. I will come kick her a%$
OMG ! im real emotional right now....
WOOOOSAAAAA!!
OK im calm.....
OMG ! im real emotional right now....
WOOOOSAAAAA!!
OK im calm.....
Hello, Dont worry about your in laws.. You need to just stay calm and worry about you and your babies....
Well we are on the same boat, my in-laws are plain evil!!!, they live in India thank God but they were here for six months and left in May. It was the worse 6 months of my life, the brain washed my husband against me like you have no idea. Things have gotten a little better since they left but every time I do something his parents wouldn't like he'll tell me "My parents are right"..WTF???....ughh!! I'm so happy about my pregnancy but I dread the moment they'll be back when I give birth and try to control my home and my husband and now my babies I'm sure. I try not to think about it but I'm sure DH and I will have many arguments because they'll want to have the babies raised and treated the way they want and he will listen :(.........why can't all these people just stay away from us pregnant women??????
Some people do not deserve to be parents. So I would not expect her to be excited about grandchildren either. Sweep up the paint chips and move out. It is not worth it. Let her deal with the mess she made.
I have a crazy in law family too and it got so bad that I told DH to cut ties with his mother and one of his sisters (he finally saw them for who they are) and our life has been fine ever since! Our marriage has improved 100%. My advice is to find another place to live and explain to your hubby he may have to cut ties in order for you guys to have a chance at being happy. I am only saying this because it saved our marriage and our sanity. Good luck sweetie. I pray all is well.
you DO NOT need this right now. your hubby needs to know that...i would completely distance yourself from her (i think i told you this before!) i don't care if it is his mom. you are his wife and that trumps it. you need to think of yourself and your growing family. and your husband does too. if your financially able, i'd move out of that house and make sure you have no financial ties to her!
good luck dear!
good luck dear!
We told her when we were getting the positive home tests in early October. We were so excited because we never got positives as early as 4 days before my period was due. We knew there had to be something substantial this time. As usual, she never checks up on us even when David would email her that we had a big u/s coming up or whatever. When we got the bad news at the first u/s and had the follow-up 6 days later, he emailed her the night before saying how nervous we were. When he called to tell her the good news and about the possible triplets, she answered the phone by simply saying "What!!?" in a loud, annoyed tone. He replied that he had some good news for her and she said "What is it? Make it fast!" Sounding all annoyed again. David was so angry he hung up on her! Good for him! Just a year or two ago he never would've done that so he's definitely making progress coming around and seeing her for who she really is. Her forgetting his birthday 2 years in a row hasn't helped - when she's always expecting him to constantly call and check up on her and gives him guilt trips if he doesn't. Eventually she called back and explained she was in a meeting - then DON'T ANSWER YOUR PHONE! But obviously she knew how big of a day this was for us, and she could care less. Just like she could care less if I'm breathing in lead while pregnant with her grandchild and if her son is scraping it by hand without protection.
I agree with you sort of. Most times I feel it is not out of malice and she is just 100% self-absorbed and thinks only of herself. Then sometimes I think she hates me just that much and is just THAT crazy that too many things have happened that sometimes it HAS to be deliberate. In this case though, I agree - I don't think it was deliberate, but I'm angry just the same!
I agree with you sort of. Most times I feel it is not out of malice and she is just 100% self-absorbed and thinks only of herself. Then sometimes I think she hates me just that much and is just THAT crazy that too many things have happened that sometimes it HAS to be deliberate. In this case though, I agree - I don't think it was deliberate, but I'm angry just the same!
She's not trying to put anyone in danger, she's just selfish, only thinking of her own benefit. So it is not malicious, but careless. Now you know, masks and clean up must be done. Don't let her get to you, she loves that! So does she know about your pregnancy then? When/how did you tell her? How did she take it?
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