Does anyone else feel avoided?

[Yvonne_B]

Been ttc for 1 1/2 years.  This past summer I MC while overseas on a mission trip.  I just finished one round of clomid and am waiting for a positive OT.  In the past 4 months my sister in law, my cousin, 2 of my best friends, and my next door neighbor have become pregnant.  Several of them know about the MC and know that we are seeking medical help ttc.  

It seems that they have been avoiding me and my DH.  It is difficult to be around pregnant people because many times (rightly so) all they talk about is their pregnancy.... BUT I still am happy for them and need their friendship.  It's SOO hard!

Does anyone else feel avoided by family and friends, especially pregnant ones?  Any suggestions on what to do?  

[Yvonne_B]

Thanks for affirming my frustrations and pain!  We are the only ones on both sides of the family without kids too.  I hate the whole pink elephant in the room thing!  Sometimes its like people treat me like its contagious or something!

[Yvonne_B]

Thanks for sharing your story with me.  I am sorry about the loss of your child and of your friend.  That is awful!  I guess some people just are trying to "protect" us from more pain.  Too bad that isn't really possible.  

[blessedmomof3]

It is hard, but it has happened to me to. I had a freind who was due around the same time as me. We would plan everything together. We even planned she was going to have the girl and I would have the boy and they would get married. Well, when I MCd I never heard from her again. She never returned my calls ro anything. Our babies were due in Aug and I still have not heard from her. I miss her alot, but I guess she just doesn't know what to say to me. Also I have had alot of freinds, including my sis who were scared to tell me when they found out they were PG. They didn't know how I would handle it. It makes me so mad, but I understand why they feel that way. I hope your sis inlaw comes around soon.

[murd0ck]

I know how you feel, I found out about my m/c when the RE called me at work and I started crying and went home early. After that everyone tip toed around me and they still do even though it happened in January. Also my dh and I are the only ones in his family without kids, I can't imagine what they say about us when we not there. I don't have any advice for you, if I did I'd take it myself, but I know how you feel. Good luck = )