BD....different info

[foreverpoppy9]

I was told by my ob dr. to have bd everyother day starting with day 11
now my pa is saying we should bd today and tomorrow (since i got a positive opk today) and it's more helpful to only bd when you ovulate... what do i do with conflicting info?
thanks

[tina1111]

Dr. P is on the same page as me, lol. Definitely, every day. I am older, ugh, much *blush* My eggs don't last nearly as long as the younger ladies here. That is why my dr said 2x/day after pos opk.  Once that opk turns pos, you generally only have 2 days max after that to hit that egg. Every other day at that point would be moot. Both days are equally important. Most pregnancies result from those two days. Happy bding!!!

[Shayne Plosker, MD]

Dear foreverpoppy9 - both your OB and your PA are giving you reasonable advice about intercourse timing. Let me clarify:

1) We know that women can get pregnant if they have intercourse any time from 5 days before ovulation to the day of ovulation. The most fertile days are two days before ovulation, one day before ovulation, and the day of ovulation. By 24 hours after ovulation you are no longer fertile

2) Thus, having intercourse every two days from day 11 to day 18-20 should cover you since you will likely ovulate at some point between days 11 and 20.

3) Ovulation prediction kits, once they turn positive, tell you that you will ovulate sometime in the next 12-36 hours. Since this falls during the most fertile time, having intercourse the day your urine LH turns positive and the day after make sense. After having intercourse those two days, you can stop if you want.

Thus, both your OB and your PA are giving you good advice. I often suggest either approach, or even a combined approach where I recommend intercourse every other day until the urine OPKs are positive, and then intercourse that day and the next.

There is no right or wrong, or best way, to handle this. All of these approaches make good sense.

[foreverpoppy9]

my dh was never tested yet with a s/a...so what do you think then?

[tina1111]

My dr said since my dh has excellent s/a it is better to do every day and even 2x a day when in the fertile window. If there is an issue with sperm qty/quality, then no. Only every other day. Sperm is replenished every other day. But, it is only reduced by 1/2 after the 1st ejaculation. Therefore, if you are doing 2x a day(as we do in the fertile window) you still have more sperm waiting for the egg to release than if you did every other day. I do stress though, only every day or 2x a day IF s/a is normal. You seriously decrease your chances if too much bd with low count.

[foreverpoppy9]

so you all think i should bd today and tomorrow and then start the every other day thing again until af shows....so we'd bd monday, tuesday, wednesday, friday....she also said something about doing it multiple times a day or is one enough?  

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

my Ob said it's best to BD every other day that way the strong sperm have a better chance the the weak ones die out....

[vergovana]

if u had opk positive then u have to bd today&tomorrow as your pa said,it is mostly benifiting to have bd in day of ovulation&as sperms live in your uterus for 24 hours then next day b a confirming 1,follow your pa&hoping it comes this time with baby dust,good luck.

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

I didn't ever O til CD 18+

[pertykitty]

my nurse pract. said more women O on day 6 or 7 than people think, thought that was odd.  she said to bd every other day from the day af is over till it shows again.  i guess you cover all days then (if you have time for that much bd that is lol)

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

I would BD every other day starting today since you got your +OPK it works I'm living proof we only BD the day of my +OPK and 2 days after my + Opk and I'm 5 months prego with my twins now