Need more encouragement...3rd M/C :-( Will I ever get one that sticks??

[dainsey]

Hi guys,
You've all helped me when I was down after my 2nd miscarriage and now I need more help...
I'm currently going thru my 3rd miscarriage and I'm feeling totally hopeless...I'm scared to death I'll NEVER get a healthy one...
I had my second mc in February and I got pregnant again with my 3rd before even getting my period....we didn't even realize we could as we thought my HCG levels weren't at zero...
They at first though this one was a molar pregnancy because when we originally found out about this pregnancy my HCG was at  43,000!  It turned out not to be molar and they weren't sure if the baby was going to make it and today we found out it didn't  :-(
Now that it's our 3rd I'm just thinking it will never be me...
They tested my FSH and it came back great at 6 so they said that's not the problem...we don't know what's wrong..
Any encouragement from any of you that have had multiple miscarriages and went on to have a baby???
Thanks guys...this is definitely a pity party night for me :-0(

[Minu2608]

So sorry to hear about ur 3rd M/C, I just had mine & that too on the christmas day. I know how terrible that feels. But something I read while surfing the net on the same issue, made me kind of strong & hopeful, which goes as ¨ Remember that most miscarriages are nature’s way of correcting issues that would have made the pregnancy unviable ¨. My prayers are with you as you are going thru this terrible time. I often find myself crying my heart out while I am alon driving or in the house alone.
But we should be hopeful that God has something better planned for us.
Good Luck & may God Bless You.

[Dena01]

Hey!Sorry about whats going on with u.Why did they say that this was not gonna work out?

[YvetteY]

Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry.    I know how you feel.   It's so scarry and devastating and everything else.   Have you been tested for frequent miscarriages?     Maybe there's something hormonal causing problems.  

Your FSH is soo good, you know you egg supply is good.   You know there's a good one in there!!!!  

[marie1210]

Ooo, if you knew how much we have in common.  I got preggo in Dec. 2005, m/c in Jan. 06.  It took me 8 months to get pregnant again, but m/c in Nov.  Then I found out I was pregnant for the 3rd time without ever having af in between.  I m/c that baby in Jan. 07.  The past year and a half has been very hard on me and my dh so I know where you are coming.  I don't know about you, but I don't have any other children so my doctor did fertility testing on dh and I.  Dh is fine but I have a chromosomal issue called balanced transolcation.  Like one in 600 people are affected.  Unfortunately, this means I'm more likely to m/c than normal women.  I'm not saying that this could be the cause of your m/c's but I just thought I'd share my story.  Truthfully, I'm scared to death to try again but the fact that people with my condition can and do have healthy children, I'm determined to try again.  All I needed was that glimmer of hope, even if it's only a slight glimmer.  If I was there, I'd give you a hug and encourage you to keep your head up because good things will come.  Let us know how you're doing. Best wishes!

[mami2karina]

I'm sorry hun.  I'm pregnant with baby#2 but I had 3 m/c's last year.  One in September, one in October and one in December.  BUT I got pregnant again in January and I'm pregnant with a perfectly healthy baby boy, 19 weeks pregnant.  This pregnancy was rocky in the beginning, I had a subchorionic bleed that caused me a lot of worry but everything is perfect now.  I know it's hard to hear, but you're time will come.  You will get your baby.  Just hang in there and don't give up no matter how hard it gets.  It'll happen for you!  (((HUGS)))

[Tanker Chic]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  My heart goes out to you.  I've had one loss, but I can't image the disappointment of three.  Hang in there.  I've heard many stories about healthy babies after mulitple m/c.  

[dainsey]

In addition...I didn't mean to post this on both of the forums...I'm having a glass of wine during my pity party and got all confused on where I posted it...ha ha.

[Jada79]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine going through a m/c multiple times. I have only suffered 1 and it about killed me, now I don't Ovulate. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Has your dr. recommended waiting 2 -3 cycles before trying again? I know Dr.'s vary as far as their recommendations go, but when I m/c my Dr. told me to wait 2- 3 cycles before trying again to give my body a chance to recover. He said it was a greater chance of m/c again if I got pregnant right away. I'm not saying he is right, I'm just passing along what he suggested to me.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's hard, but stay positive girly.