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Hi all! So I posted something similar to this a few days ago and now cant find it to read what people wrote. I really need some advice here. Im 23 my bf is 26. My bf and I have been together for 3 1/2yrs. He has no children and I have a 4yr old from a previous relationship. My daughter was planned and it took me a yr to concieve her. My current bf and I have been trying (tracking periods, intercourse like crazy, etc.) for about 3yrs now. In Feb 2013 I finally became pregnant in May at 12wks I had a miscarriage. I have really irregular periods and always have. My dr put me on birth control at 16 to try to regulate them which seemed to help. Now I have a hard time tracking everything and obv a hard time concieving because of the irregularity. We are desperate to have a child together and cant seem to make it happen. I feel it is becoming detrimental to our relationship. Its putting a strain on us and idk what to do at this point. I cant see why I could have a baby before and not now which leads me to believe he might be sterile or something happened to me in the last 4 yrs since I had a baby. I could be completely wrong and he may he fine but its exhaisting to keep trying with no results other than stress, disappointment, and arguing. Idk if IVF is somethig I should look in to. If I should see a DR or a specialist and if I should what kind of doctor or specialist? All I know is I need advice and possibly some medical assistance of some sort.. PLEASE HELP. Thank you for taking the time to read this and respond for a second time. I wont lose it again. :-)
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Thank you for your advice... Which doctor do you think is appropriate? Primary care, gynecologist, or fertility specialist? Im gonna try to make an appointment tomorrow.
Thank you for your advice... what kind of dr do you think is appropriate? Primary care, gynecologist, or fertility specialist? I actually meant to make an appointment today but I didn't know which one I should see.
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They may test both of you for fertility issues ie low sperm count or pcos (polycystic ovaries).
What's not helping is that you are putting to much stress into the mix. It normally takes a healthy couple trying up to 2 years to conceive.
Also having sex every other day is a good thing when your due your mid cycle (ovulation) as sperm can live inside for up to 7 days. Doing it every day will decrease the amount of strong sperm and there for no strong sperm will make the journey. Also an egg may not be released every month and it doesn't help when your frantically trying as this can cause mayhem on your body.
The fact that you fell pregnant twice before suggests that you can fall pregnant but you may need an extra boost if your not often ovulating and have been trying for 4 years.
Easier said then done but try not to think about it - allow sex to be more about the 2 of you and not just baby making but make sure you go to the doctors xx