While on this journey...

[smmast]

how do you cope with hearing the news of friends getting pregnant with what seems like no problem?
These are people i truly care about and i am happy for them, but it somehow saddens me. It makes me feel like a bad, selfish friend.

[lizzie29]

I totally understand that feeling too.
I have been trying 4 years and have just found out that i have a blocked tubes and my husband has a low sperm count and weve now been put forward for ICSI (IVF).
Were both 30 this year and i guess were at that age where friends will be settling down too but when i hear of ANOTHER person i know getting pregnant i get really angry and start shouting at myself and putting myself down.I try and make my friends feel sorry for me but once ive calmed down i realise what an idiot ive been.I have to appologise but i know its just envy in every way.Luckily they have all been great.
The worst is even my twin sister has no trouble getting pregnant and is on her second pregnancy and here we are struggling like mad.
How were all feeling is normal and i dont think the pain or the jealousy will ever go away as were human and woman who want to experience motherhood.Its just a shame that so many others out there take it for granted...
We'll get there x x x x
Lizzie

[candie429]

I am so sorry.  I know exactly how you are feeling and I'm sure the rest of the ladies on this forum can relate as well.  It's not that you would wish infertility on anyone or want anyone else to have to struggle, but it's definitely hard when you are trying for something you want so badly and it's not happening.  It's so frustrating when something that should be so beautiful and natural has to be so difficult.  It's only natural for other's pregnancies to remind you of what you are missing out on.  After TTC for 2 1/2 years, I've been there many times.  What makes it even harder is when these people never consider that it might be hard for others and they tell us to hurry and catch up, or why don't you have kids yet, or what are you waiting for.  It just breaks my heart.  I guess all we can do is keep praying and believing that we will be blessed someday too.  Hang in there.  I wish you all the best!  :)

[smmast]

Thank you for all your comments. I certainly would not wish infertility on anyone, nor would i want anyone to ever have to go through this, however i feel like the pregnancy of someone else seems to highlight, if only in my head, my own difficulties.

[therese101]

In the whole time that we were trying to conceive there were 8 babies born in our group of friends. For me the way i got through it was, i needed to be happy for them because i could not wish infertility upon them, there is no way i would have wanted them to go through what my dh and i have. This made it a whole lot easier for me. Also i have a fantastic relationship with all of those babies that were born.

[bree08]

Like the others said it's normal. One of my friends who already has 3 kids that she doesn't support told me the other day that she wants to have another baby but she's afraid I'll be upset. I got tears in my eyes and I told her I cant be mad at her for that. In my head I was thinking I'll just be really sad, but I would never let her see that. I even had a dream two nights ago that she was pregnant. You are totally normal for feeling this way. Your time will come soon.

[Quinns momma]

Exactly, it is perfectly normal to feel green with envy.  I get so annoyed at times tho. I have a friend whos daughter lost custody of her little boy due to drug use in the home. What does she do? Goes and gets pregnant again. Just had another little boy who she has custody of but refuses to go to parenting classes to get back her older son.

I could scream when I see that and here we are ttc...

[cwolf1006]

Not a selfish friend, it's a natural reaction when we aren't getting the very thing everyone else seems to be! It's so hard, but just remember our time is coming and some day our wish will come true as well, keep your head high!! SSBD and take care!