mentally drained after my loss

[sarahlou1978]

ectopic pregnancy 4th dec 2008...... only found out 7 days earlier that i was pregnant...... docs checked me every 48 hours, hcg levels wer slow rising.....3rd dec 2008 11am they told me they wer going to leave me for a week, benefit of the doubt as they said..... 3am friday 4th dec 2008 i got rushed to hospital, had scans then taken to theatre. wen i woke thye told me it had ruptured and they had to remove my right tube, i was devestated........

its been 2 weeks tday. 18th dec and im finding it hard to come to terms with what has happened. everything happened so fast...... i have got 2 children, very healthy and normal pregnancys with them...... what are the chances this may happen again???? and hwat are my chances at getting pregnant again????how soon after an ectopic can u try again????

i dont know anything. was given no information. no councilling, nothing...
im sorry to hear of all ur losses,,,, i know physically and mentally what u have or are going through..

sarah age 30

[mama1981]

Hi Sarah -

I am sad to hear of your loss.  Getting preggers is an ordeal in itself and to have it end unchoosingly is extremely hard.  I have never been pregnant before but can only imahine what you and your hubby must be going thru.  It's easier said than done, but hang in there...Please keep up your prayers as kikicoates is right, Time heals all wounds with the help of trusting in the Lord to get you thru.  You are in my prayers.

xo,
marline

[kikicoates78]

Sarah,
    First off I am deeply sorry for what you are goin through. I have not experianced an ectopic, but I have suffered a M/C. And it is so emotionally draining on your heart and your body.
    As far as when you can try again I would say when you are emotionally healed. Women get PG all the time with only one tube, I have only one tube and one overy and I am currently PG. You should probly wait till your monthly cycles regulate again to start to try, I think it is your bodys way of telling you OK. Most Dr. reccommend waiting 3 months after a M/C to start again. I feel it is a personal choice. I'm not sure of statistics with Ectopic but I do know they are rare and your chances of having them back to back is very slim.  
     I wish you all the best dear and hope God gives you the strength to get through your time of sorrow, Just remember time heals.