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Very upset........
I've been really sad and upset for a week now. My Dh's boss asked him if it would be ok for him to go to Las Vegas to help out out there for aleast 10 days starting the 13th of Feb. We are supposed to start ivf again around that time. Mind you usually when they ask him to travel he does, but this time he said no. My DH did not want to go into detail but he bascally said I can't because of medical reasons. Also, he does not want to go due to the fact that they usually take advantange of him when he is out there by given him a lot more work that he doesn't even get paid for. On Friday my DH saw his boss. That creep said to him did you speak to the owner yet and my DH said no. Why? and he said because the owner is going to ask you to go to las vegas. My DH was pissed and told him again there is no way I can go this time.
I can't believe he went to the owner. They can only ask because it's not required. I am praying to god they don't make him go... If they do I can't do ivf this month. What a jerk... Sorry had to vent.
I can't believe he went to the owner. They can only ask because it's not required. I am praying to god they don't make him go... If they do I can't do ivf this month. What a jerk... Sorry had to vent.
I am glad you are feeling better. Given your last ivf, I think your dh should stay with you.
Thankyou everyone for your advice. I was talking to my DH about it last night and he told me that the owner has not even said anything to him about it. He had seen him around the office a few times, but there was no word about Las Vegas. My Dh thinks if they were going to definatly send him they would of said something by now especially that they wanted him to go on Friday. I'm starting to feel better much better.
Maybe if the owner talks to him about going, he can go into more detail but still be vague. He could say something, like "Mr. X, as I told Mr. Jerk (the boss) and I am sorry that he didn't relay this to you, I really understand you wanting me to go and I have always tried to do what the company needs. But unfortunately, there is a serious medical procedure that my wife will be going through during that time and it would be unsafe, unfair and unwise for me to be out of town."
I can't imagine ANY boss saying anything other than "I see. Thanks for sharing." And I know exactly how you feel - you want him to be there through it. It was a very emotional thing for me and I would have been doubly stressed if my DH wouldn't have been around!
Hope it all works out and I hope that this is a successful cycle for you.
I can't imagine ANY boss saying anything other than "I see. Thanks for sharing." And I know exactly how you feel - you want him to be there through it. It was a very emotional thing for me and I would have been doubly stressed if my DH wouldn't have been around!
Hope it all works out and I hope that this is a successful cycle for you.
can he leave a sample? I was almost in this position too....they can use a frozen sample!
I'm sorry. It would definitely be ideal for him to be around. I understand. Especially when you ended up in the hospital. That is scary!
I'm just praying they will tell him he does not have to go... He's just waiting for the owner to say something. If he tells him he really needs to be there than he will. It just *****!!!!
It is a possibility to leave a sample, but he really wants to be around bacause last time I ended up in the hospital.
I know that your dh can freeze a sample and they can use that sample the day of your retrieval, if he is not able to be there with you. Our fertility counselor mentioned that to us, as we were in a similar situation. Thankfully, everything worked out, but it is nice to know you can do that. I think she said it would cost $100 for the clinic to freeze it. Just an option. Hopefully he will not have to go. Good luck!
hmmm. That is a tricky situation and I'm sorry to hear you have to go through with this. My dh has been in NYC from Su-Thurs since the second week in November. He was asked to be on this project and really couldn't say no due to the economy, plus IBM is having layoffs. I understand you wanting to be together during this precious time of IVF but like alikat said, I wouldn't take chances either.... I'll be thinking of you during this time.
does your dh have to be around? any way he can leave a sample at the dr. office before he goes? i would not take any chances in this economy of refusing anything at work. i'm sorry, the timing ***** :(
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