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6 months after my mom's passing
My mom passed away from stomach cancer on December 1, 2008. Prior to her passing, I was with her everyday, taking care of her. During that time I watched her health deteriorate and to this day I still have images of my mom extremely sick. I miss her so much and I don't know how to cope anymore. As each day goes by, I feel worse and even more depressed. My boyfriend is tired of my pessimism and dealing with my depression and tells me all the time to "Just move on....its been 6 months". Although I know it has been 6 months, I feel like this all happened to me yesterday. Next week is my 21st birthday and all I keep thinking about is wishing my mom was still here. How do I cope? I'm so tired and exhausted. I've been contemplating on taking some anti-depressants...will that help?
My mom died in my arms July 19, 2009 and only someone who has witness their beloved mother deteriorate in front of their eyes can understand your pain. I was caretaker for my mom who died of Congestive Heart Failure and her diabities filled her lungs with fluid....I watch my mother suffocate and since she couldn't breath had a heart attack. It's all surreal...it's like "this can't be happening...not to me, not to my family"...but, mom is dead and I can't do anything to bring her back home with me.
It's been 2 yrs. and I will never get over losing my mom....I need her so bad and miss her advise. Your boyfriend is insensitive and how dare him tell you to just move one. How do you move on in 6 wks. after losing the person that gave you life! That's not going to happened. The first everything is soooo painful. For my first birthday without mom, I went to her grave, kneeled down on it and sob...calling out to my "mommy"...I asked her, "Where are you"..."I need you"...I had to leave, because my throat started to swell. There is no set time on the grief process. You will have good days and you will have terrible days and to be honest with you, if my boyfriend dared tell me to just move on....I would move him on. If you feel it is necessary to go to the doctor, please do so, but there is no way around this one....Death is raw and in order for you to heal, you have to feel every bit of it and to me it's hell. I lived it. Just remember that God will give you the strenght to move on...one day at a time and at your pace (not the boyfriend) and your mom would have never want to see her little girl suffer, so celebrate her life by making her real proud of you. Live...live life to the fullest and remember that you are an extension of her...just look in the mirror and on day in God's time, when He will call on you, your mom is going to come running to you from the gates of heaven and be the guiding light to show you the way. It's going to be alright and if you need to just talk...we are here who understand how life changing it is to lose a loved one. Judy
It's been 2 yrs. and I will never get over losing my mom....I need her so bad and miss her advise. Your boyfriend is insensitive and how dare him tell you to just move one. How do you move on in 6 wks. after losing the person that gave you life! That's not going to happened. The first everything is soooo painful. For my first birthday without mom, I went to her grave, kneeled down on it and sob...calling out to my "mommy"...I asked her, "Where are you"..."I need you"...I had to leave, because my throat started to swell. There is no set time on the grief process. You will have good days and you will have terrible days and to be honest with you, if my boyfriend dared tell me to just move on....I would move him on. If you feel it is necessary to go to the doctor, please do so, but there is no way around this one....Death is raw and in order for you to heal, you have to feel every bit of it and to me it's hell. I lived it. Just remember that God will give you the strenght to move on...one day at a time and at your pace (not the boyfriend) and your mom would have never want to see her little girl suffer, so celebrate her life by making her real proud of you. Live...live life to the fullest and remember that you are an extension of her...just look in the mirror and on day in God's time, when He will call on you, your mom is going to come running to you from the gates of heaven and be the guiding light to show you the way. It's going to be alright and if you need to just talk...we are here who understand how life changing it is to lose a loved one. Judy
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