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Grief and blaming myself
my dad died almost 4 years ago when i was 15 i blame myself because i didnt wake him up when i should have now i take care of my mom 2 sisters and brother with no help or support then to make matters worse last years to of my closes friends died and then i had 2 miscarriages i am 19 years old and have all this resposibility on me with no help whats so ever i had to put my grief aside and now its like i cant even cry my mom has to be on pills my sister is addicted to pills and as of right now i dont know what to do sometimes i feel like keeling over and dying is there anyone that can help me and how much pain do i have to go through before i quit feeling as if im to blame for every thing?
thank you i will do just that im gonna talk to someone about it itll be alright thank you
Also, if your mother has insurance, it can cover a caretaker to come to your house and help out...Judy
Lizzy,
You do have other options, but God (capital "G") will help you, but you must take the step to help yourself. There must be another adult that you can turn to and tell them that you need help...that you can't do it by yourself. It's just not right or fair for you.
An old high school teacher, councelor, a family member. Talk to your mom and see if she can give you direction on who can step in and help. God will not give you more than you can handle and you are talking with people who are dealing with the worst time of our life the death of a family member. My mother died in my arms and if I can "survive" such a hugh loss in my life, YOU CAN DO THIS....please, take the first step and say that yes, I can do this and be at my very best handling situations at the worst time. It's call being a survivor and taking charge of your life.
Keep us informed on how you are doing ok....Judy
You do have other options, but God (capital "G") will help you, but you must take the step to help yourself. There must be another adult that you can turn to and tell them that you need help...that you can't do it by yourself. It's just not right or fair for you.
An old high school teacher, councelor, a family member. Talk to your mom and see if she can give you direction on who can step in and help. God will not give you more than you can handle and you are talking with people who are dealing with the worst time of our life the death of a family member. My mother died in my arms and if I can "survive" such a hugh loss in my life, YOU CAN DO THIS....please, take the first step and say that yes, I can do this and be at my very best handling situations at the worst time. It's call being a survivor and taking charge of your life.
Keep us informed on how you are doing ok....Judy
thank yall but i really dont have anyone to turn to but im gonna try to work things out how far that will take me i cant be sure but god is on my side and with him all things are possible
Lizzy....so NOT your fault....ask yourself this question, "If you knew he was going to die, would you have woken him up?" OF COURSE YOU WOULD HAVE! You have no control over what happened to your dad...yes, you can feel sad, and full of grief and angry....but please, NOT GUILTY. you DID NOT kill your father. Please forgive yourself because you are the only person blaming YOU....you did NOTHING WRONG...truly...I mean that from my heart.
As far as your family goes, you SHOULD NOT be responsible for them. I would suggest that you get into counseling and then from there, have her help you find ways to deal with your family...This is much too much for you to handle on your own. Do you have any aunts or uncles who you could turn to? Have you talked to your mom about all of this?
Start with a counselor who could help you sort out your feelings and then take it from there. You should not have to live this way. I truly wish you the best.
As far as your family goes, you SHOULD NOT be responsible for them. I would suggest that you get into counseling and then from there, have her help you find ways to deal with your family...This is much too much for you to handle on your own. Do you have any aunts or uncles who you could turn to? Have you talked to your mom about all of this?
Start with a counselor who could help you sort out your feelings and then take it from there. You should not have to live this way. I truly wish you the best.
Lizzy,
How could you blame yourself for your fathers death? It is not your fault and you are being way to hard on yourself. You are sooo young yet. If it was his time, even if he would have been awake, God would have called him home. You are so young to have so much responsibilty. It's time to talk to the family and work something out, so that you can go back to just being a teenager. It's just not fair that this is the most beautiful time of your life (your youth) and you are suffering both emotionally and physically with miscarriages.
Your moms two sister should be taking care of your mom and you. Lizzy, it's time to get other people involved in become caretakes or at least helping out.
Also, you have experienced the loss of your father and that is huge. In order to heal, you must grieve and it's a very difficult and painful process, but with the help from God and one day at a time you will slowly begin to feel human again.
We are here for you, but please ask for help. This is just too much for you.
Judy
How could you blame yourself for your fathers death? It is not your fault and you are being way to hard on yourself. You are sooo young yet. If it was his time, even if he would have been awake, God would have called him home. You are so young to have so much responsibilty. It's time to talk to the family and work something out, so that you can go back to just being a teenager. It's just not fair that this is the most beautiful time of your life (your youth) and you are suffering both emotionally and physically with miscarriages.
Your moms two sister should be taking care of your mom and you. Lizzy, it's time to get other people involved in become caretakes or at least helping out.
Also, you have experienced the loss of your father and that is huge. In order to heal, you must grieve and it's a very difficult and painful process, but with the help from God and one day at a time you will slowly begin to feel human again.
We are here for you, but please ask for help. This is just too much for you.
Judy
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