Thank you all for your kind words, I really appreciate them (:
I feel at peace knowing that he is no longer in pain, when I went in to say my last goodbye he looked so relaxed and his 'pain lines' had gone.
I'm just finding it difficult because I miss him so much! Even the silly stuff like picking his clothes out for the next day, or the way he used to blow bubbles at me when I gave him a bath! But what I miss the most is the way we would put our foreheads together and he would say, my emily, and I would respond, my joe.
Although everyone at work knew how close me and joe werwe're I don't like talking to them about it because it feels lile gossiping. I try and talk to my family about it but they didn't know him so they seem to not really want to listen!
Joe loved my boyfriend Adrian, and would always ask after him and when he met him told him he had to treat me right or else but adrian lost his step dad 4 years ago and whenever I talk about joe he just says 'try loosing your step dad'
So thank you everyone because it feels good to be able to talk about it all, it means a lot (:
Hi Emily, it just goes to show us that true love is not about age but about feelings. You loved him, bottom line and are broken hearted and have every right to morn your loss. Joe loved you also. Really sorry.
dave
Omg i cried just at reading this! Of course you can too you should cry a lot and suffer all you need to, when my granpa died i didnt cry, not at all and he was my father.......... he raised me, anyways i just couldnt i closed myself and was the only one in the family able to speak at his ceremony cuz everyone else was just to emotional to do it... after that i only broke when i saw my mother (actually my aunt) crying..... i didnt even cried so much there only alone and with noone to notice it.... i think you should take advantage of you having a boyfriend and stick to him to help you overcome this, family can help too, if someone doesnt understand you tell them to fckoff!! noone can know the relationship you both had! old people are amazing partners, they know so much about everything... suffer all you need to suffer ! let the sadness go and wash it with happiness of the happy moments you had with him... those memories will always be there in both your minds.... after all im sure u too will reconect and talk again in other moment... noone knows what happens after death right? we are energy, and energy doesnt disappears... just transforms. good luck and best wishes !
Hey Emily.
Nobody can tell you how you should feel, after the passing of a person
close to you.
You connected with him at a level where you both felt very special.
That bond that you had is something most people don't understand.
Of course you are supposed to express sadness and grief, however,
it is now time to accept his passing, recognize the fact that he has gone to a much better place, where suffering and pain don't exist.
His spirit and his memory are always alive! Please Remember this!
When you finally free yourself from all the sadness, you may be able to connect with him in a spiritual way. He might even be your Spirit guide,
in your life in this world.
Spirits cannot connect with us easily when we're occupied by grief and sadness.
Allow yourself this opportunity, let the Light enter your life and take the space now held by these emotions.
You may then be "touched" by the presence of his Spirit.
And I also have the feeling that your own Spirit is craving this.
You visiting his room and talking to him is not random.
My prayers and thoughts are with you.
May you have the strength, courage and wisdom to move forward, to overcome your sadness and to open your heart and mind to "Divine Spiritual Connections".
Love, Peace. & Blessings
Niko