The loss off my 4year old son

Me an my Partner lost our son 1 December 2012  22days before hes 4 birthday it was due to R V S an Pneumonia There were no signs!! our boy was in nursery that Friday 1-6 came home an went to bed as he did any other night he was so excited going Christmas shopping with hes great Nannie an grandad Saturday morning our sons short little life got taken We feel within hours He was our life our lives Stopped 1-12-2012
Every day is so painful an it gets harder every day We have Family support an friends that support us every day!!!!!
Any advice on rvs or Pneumonia

[Nikodicreta]

Hey Lilly,

I'm sorry for Loss of your beautiful boy, however, I want to welcome you to
Medhelp and our little group here, where I'm hopeful that you'll find some support and some words of compassion and wisdom to help ease the pain a  little bit.
We're here to share experiences, support one another, or simply to allow grieving members to use this as a platform to express their feelings,
in this very difficult time in their lives.

Last year my younger brother and my mom passed on, and  have to admit that now I'm at peace with this.

My mother gave me the gift of Spirituality and my  brother the gift of Compassion, so I used these 2 virtues to give a positive meaning to their passing and a stronger motivation to myself to do good, as they both would have wanted me to do. I know their Spirit is guiding me along my Path
and for that I'm very grateful.

I will be in touch soon again.
What would you like to know about RVS & Pneumonia?

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
God Bless You!
Niko

[lisaob1]

im so so sorry for your loss..i too lost my daughter when she was 3 yrs 9 months old,.i dont know about RVS & Pneumonia..im really sorry...,but i do know about the loss your feeling,..i know that there is nothing that i can say....my heart,thoughts and prayers are with you,and your family at this time...with all my love lisa

[mammo]

Hi....I am so very sorry about the loss of your son.  I have lost both parents and a brother but nothing compares to the loss of a child...nothing.  I learned this when I lost my son, it's a million times worse than one can imagine and I feel it's a loss that's very difficult to come to terms with.  It seems so unfair to have our child taken away from us, so it adds anger and many questions to our pain. Everything you're feeling is normal, and this is no time to pretend your heart isn't shattered.  I wrote letters to my son, and journaled all my feelings and emotions...putting all of your thoughts and emotions down on paper is very therapeutic for us as it serves as a form of release.  Write everything, how much you miss him, your dreams for him, your memories, whatever comes to mind.  It will never make sense to you and there will always be that void in your heart.  All I can say is to take it one day at a time, take the time to mourn your loss and if need be, seek therapy to help you deal with this.  Below is a website to explain what was wrong with your beautiful boy.  My heart and prayers goes out to you, your partner, and of course your son. Big hugs.....

http://kidshealth.org/parent/infections/bacterial_viral/rsv.html

[Lilly2013]

Thankyou! Well i just like to know what R V S is have never heard off it. I had my son constantly at Docters all the time he allways had a runny nose cough very wheezy an chesty  at all times he would have coughing fits at night which on occasions lead to my son being sick The docter told me all the time he was fine allways gave him antibiotics with out examining my son Propley my boy allso sufferd with Asthma So i feel the docter may have been able to pick this up if he
sent my boy for second opinon i had my son at the docters every time due to hes Breathing an i feel the docters let my little boy down!!

[Lilly2013]

Its so very hard he was my only Child he was mine an hes daddys whole life we so lost without our boy!And all i want is for some one to know what i feel as yes your right nothing compares to losing your child hes such a beautiful bright cheeky little boy he lived hes short life with such happiness laughter Joy he was so Gentle loving an caring Thankyou for your comment means so much an the website page

[Lilly2013]

Liza so sorry to hear about your loss my little boy was 3yrs 11months 1 day old 22 days before hes 4th birthday he passed away i can say that you do know how i feel as your little girl was just a little younger then my son words cannot even begen to describe how we feel as its stoped my life alltogether he was my only child an He was very cheeky hes laugh made every one eles laugh he was such a Bright little boy he knew so much he was so loving Thankyou for your kind message x x

[remar]

I would recommend that you and his father get in to grief counseling. It may really help both of you.
I am so very sorry you lost your little son. I can not even begin to imagine what you're going through. As a mother myself though, my heart breaks for you and any other mother that has lost a child.

[jml1986]

RSV is a Respiratory virus that spreads in little droplets that spread when some one coughs, sneezes or blows their nose. It is cold like symptoms that in a health person is generally some thing they will get over. However in young kids or people with health issues it can be deadly. I would say that your child had a weak immune system so his poor little body could not fight off the infection. Why or what caused you childs body to have a weak immune system is unknown. I am 50 yrs old and I just found out that I have what is called Primary Immunodeficiancy Disease. Which in plain words means that my body does not make the antibodies it takes to fight off bacteria and viruses like a healthy persons does. Why I don't make them will be my lifes mystery, and why it took 50 years for someone to figure it out will also never be known. I can tell you that all my life I have struggled with viruses and bacteries. I feared being around people who were sick because I knew I was going to get it and it was going to be much harder for me to get rid of it then it did the person who exposed me. The answer for me was that I now take weekly infusions of healthy blood platlets that give me the antibodies I need to fight off any virus or infection that comes my way. I can say that while I am still leary about being around sick people I have not gotten sick once since I have started the infusions. So while I know that the information I have shared with you will offer you no comfort, maybe it will help you understand a little more about RSV and a little more about why your son was not able to fight off the virus. My thoughts and prayers are with you.