he started getting sick about this time in 2001 me and mom really miss him alot the others miss him alot also he died five days after getting sick we never did find out how he got so ill we thought he had the flu but we never knew how sick he was we were in the process of recarpeting the hole building just the day before he died we got done he said thank god i can rest in peace we never couild emation how true that was he was sick all week
he was a hard man to take of im sure the nurses did everything for him he just hated to be fussed with that is why he wasnt in the hospital when he got sick he refused to go he was a gentle man most of the time but when doesnt feel good he is very grumpy he started getting sick about this time in 2001 one week later he was gone it is really hard on my mom she is still trying to deal with her sister we just now found last night that she is leaveing for st louise on saturday she might be gone for a month my mom doesnt want her to go but we know she needs to be with her family
Edith, I have been thinking about you and wondering how you are doing. Dear, I fel for you in the loss of father. I too get sad since my Mom passed on Christmas night. Mistakes were made by hospital staff. She should not have died. If I dwell on this, I get angry and it hurts me. So- what I can tell you is that I pull the good times out and remember them. I never forget the sick times she had. If I were to then I would want her back her. I now know she is without pain and happy. I know she is just "stirring up something special" this Christmas as she always did. Just remembering how she would say that brings a smile. Will be remembering you in prayer. Blessings. Madlyn
some how they keep on loosing my pass word i dont know if this happens to you but if i dont post awile they always ask for my password they usually have to sent it a couple of times before i get the right password well heres my dad story we had a christmas party five days before christmas we do this every year with the residents families we usally have about hundred people there was nothing wrong with him then he loved to party that was on the 20 of december four days later he couild nt hardly move we thought he had the flu that was on christmas eve of course we couildnt get a docters appointment on the 26 we found his kidneys were failing we never did find out why on the 29 he died
I hope the other posters get back to you, your Dad sounds like he was very special and talented to have designed a retirement home ,it is a wonderful memory of him, and I expect you really like inviting the residents families to Christmas Buffet 100 is a lot of folks I bet that keeps you busy,and Family run it again a great interest, it is understandable your Aunt would want to go to Family for the Holidays. Its good to talk about them isnt it I believe in the talking they are still part of our lives, I hope you have a wonderful party .
he started not feeling well about this time we own a retirement home which he desighned on his own he wouild stay up hours on end doing all the sketches all by him self weve had this home for twenty yrs every yr we invite the residents families for christmas buffet we usally have about a hundred people my mom and i really miss him alot i do have 2 brothers and 2 sisters but some times my dad was hard to deal with one sister and 1 brother are part of the bussiness my brother is the maintance man and my sister is is co owner they dont get along very well because of the buissness this hole family buissness was my dads idea i got to go and have lunch now talk later
sorry i havent posted in a while i lost the sight web address and now i got it back my aunt is doing okay she really misses him alot during the holidays we know what she is going through my dad started getting sick about this time in 2001 before he died so we know what it is like my aunt wants to go to st louise for christmas but we got a major snow storm last night so we dont know if or when she is going we live in colorado it is going to take about 28 hours to get there my mom doesnt want her to go but she under stands that she has to be with her family
It was so good to hear from you and know you are doing as well as expected. These times of the year are hard for any experiencing grief. We all have been there or still there. Pleasekeep talking. I even talk to a stuffed animal or our pet if no one else available. I get so confused, I can't even get my feelings out sometimes. Nonetheless I still try. I do know we need not to keep things inside and to ourselves. I am glad you felt like talking about your Dad and his death. I hope it helps to talk about it. For me it does. I am thankful that I found this site. I can express my feelings and thoughts and do not have to see the expressions of those reading them. If someone is reading my post and doesn't want to finish--they can stop and I never know it. On the other hand, if they read it and wish to comment--then no matter whether I like what they say or not, I know they cared enough to comment. Remember I'm here. May sound a little flaky at times, but I do care. Keep in touch. Prayers to your family.
To : 98acer- So sorry to hear about the death of your Dad this past year (good friday) Do know that we here are for you also as you approach the holidays . We are here for not only the holidays but for all days. Main thing is not to keep feelings to yourself. Others are out here and they care and are there for you. Love you both. Madlyn
i lost my dad good friday of this year your dad sonds like mine lol i miss him ...but it is hard to talk about my dad some times somy dad died of lung canser......so sorry you ungel passaway....ti is hard to i will prat for your famly ......may god bless you
he died very suddenly five days after christmas 2001 he got very sick on christmas eve we thought he had the flu four days later his kidneys shut down for no reason hes already had several heart attack so he didnt like hospitals he was a gentle man most of the time he sometimes wouild blow up we just left him alone at those times the day he died me and my sister went to drop off some blood work for him and then we went to a pet shop we were only gone for an hour and half and he died while we were going back home my aunt is doing better she is leaving for st louise a couple days after thanksgiving to be with her granchildren she might be gone till after christmas
i didnt have axcess to a computer for quit a while mine crashed and my moms wasnt working well we got my moms fixed today and mine is going to get hooked up tommarrow with none of our working we got back locked my aunt is doing better
I haven't seen you post in a while. How's things going for you. Keep in touch and know that if ever you need to talk, I'm here. Madlyn
Sounds like your aunt is blessed to have family such as you and your mom so close. Remeber you saying you would talk about you dad later. When you are ready, we are here. Good to hear from you. Blessings and prayers. Madlyn
my aunt lives right down the road from us so we talk everyday this is the first time shes been alone everyone left saturday sunday and monday she still cries alot her and my mom talk everyday this is going to be very hard on her they were married for 42 yrs me and mom are there for her but right now shes very busy she has to call the car insuarnce to get his name off everyone is asking her for a death certificate now that she has to change everything my mom went through the same thing when my dad died in 2001
Just wanted to know how you, your aunt and family are doing. Sometimes it is hard to talk about death just afterwards, I understand. Please know and be assured, I think I can speak for all. When you are ready, someone will be here. Do not keep feelings inside. I have been known to sit outside and talk to our dog and tell him just how unfair I thnk things can be at times. My dog listens, I think, and never tells me anything, she just looks at me and listens.Hope this doesn't sound abnormal. What is normal though? Let know how you are.
That was a great idea with the releasing of the balloons. By releasing the balloons, you are also allowing your uncle to be free also. Free from the pain you described he experienced. Don't know how far you live from your aunt, but I can tell you will be there emotionally for your aunt along with your mother.Check your area for grief support groups. Hospice should be able to tell about some and in many instances they sponsor some. Your uncle may be gone from sight, but you have his memories to cherish your lifetime. Do not think only of the last months, but remember the happy times. This will help you all realize he IS without pain now. Keep posted. Will continue to keep you and your family in prayer. Madlyn
we were gone most of the day yesterday the funeral was at 11 there were quit a few of their friends that they met that we introduced them too after the funeral we all went out for lunch my aunt payed for everyones lunch their were about thirty there after the lunch our family went to there property and let go about thirty balloons we all wrote a message to him and then later we went to my sisters house my cousin best friend was with us all day i dont know what is going to happen to my aunt after everyone is gone me and my mom will be there for her
Sorry for your loss and pray for strength for you and your family during the times ahead. When you are ready, feel free to talk about your Dad. Holidays are a difficult time for all who are grieving or who have lost someone. When we reach out to comfort another, we are receiving comfort for ourselves also. By reaching out we are offereing a piece of our hearts as others have done to us. Love ya. Keep us posted on how you are doing. Madlyn
sorry about not getting back to earlier girls its been a busy week we had a lot of company our house is full of relatives for the funeral which is today we really miss him so much last night was the viewing they had a slide show of his life my aunt is being very brave but i know she will let it out after everyone is gone but me and my mom will be there for her
I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my uncle to liver cancer on my 18th birthday. He was diagnosed in September of 01 and by Dec '01 he was gone. So if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I myself am getting ready to go through another one. My uncle has slowly been getting worse and they had to take him back into icu today. For me this will be number 15 of my aunts and uncles. My parents each had 12 siblings so death is a constant in my life. Sadly, each one gets harder and harder.
i wanted to thank everyone who responded to me he had a very peaceful night my aunt and two of there kids were holding hands with him all night we just found out at 10.30 this morning that he died he fought a hard battle he lasted until the end ill keep in touch sorry i couildnt get to you earlier but they lost my password and everthing when they shut down last night
here is an upda te he is is pretty much in a comma yhey are going to keep him in the hospital because every time they move him hes in pain his wife and two of there kids are always there hospice will only let them in there so me and my mom cant see him neither can my sisters hes not breathing very well and his kidneys are shutting down im afraid it wont take long since we own a retitrment home we cant leave and go there whrn it happens so we got somebody that will stay the weekend if they have to my mom wants to be there for her sister weve had this facility for 20 yrs and we lost quit a lot residents in the yrs weve been open when all this is over can i talk about my dad christmas is really hard for us he got sick on christmas eve and died five days later in 2001
I think that you need to explain to him that your dad went to heaven and that is where your uncle is going. Just keep it simple because he won't undestand much, but you need to be honest. Children should only be told things in the level that they can understand and never anything more, as they get older you will be able to add more details.