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my boyfriend has cancer
I am so sad and hurt I don't know why my boyfriend is dying with cancer. the chemo didn't help he is in the 4th stage now has been in the hospital now for a month and the surgery on the brain never help and the lung cancer is still there.. Now tomorrow they are going to move him to the nursing home.. yesterday was are 6 months aniverisery.. I have cried and cried.. I just losted my sister that was 1 year older then me 6 months ago to all this and now I am losing another love one. I don't understand.. I just don't know if i even believe in prayers any more.. I hurt.. I wish there was more I could do.. I just want to yell and screem and something.. Please some one help me say a prayer or help me beilive in something or talk to me.. Thanks
What do you think he feels? The person who is diying how is his feelings . Does he feel worse than the one who loves him or the same ? Who is it harder on , the one who is diying or the one who loves him and knows is going to live without him for ever?
God, please help susanm143 be strong in this trying time in her life. She needs you to be there so she can lean on you. Help her to understand why she has to go through all of this. Help her to be able to hold her head up, help her heal and learn to find joy in life again. Thank you God for being there for her.
I'm so sorry,I know what might make you feel better,its sounds crazy,but I think I might do it to.I lost my Mom to ovarian cancer in august,this damn cancer ruined my life,took away my mommy.Go get own of those blow up punching bags for kids a can of spray paint on it write the names of the cancers that took your sister and that is about to maybe take your boyfriend ,too.After beat the absolute **** out of that punching bag,you'll have to feel a little better after doing this.And pray for God to free you of this stress and pain in your heart,I'm right with you in that feeling of loss and I know the pain.God Bless,Jen
We are all here to support you. It is so hard to lose a loved one, and to lose 2 in a short period of time is overwhelming. I lost both my parents 4 months apart. I can't even remember what I was feeling...I was angry as hell, and very angry with God....and I yelled at him, too. But I didn't stop praying. I used to say, "God, I do not know your reasons for doing this to them and to me and my family, but whatever it is, please give me the strength, comfort and peace to make it through....and guess what? He did! It is a very long road, but with little steps you can get there. Be angry, be sad, and SCREAM when you need to! Just don't give up on life...you feel like **** now, and you will for quite a while, but hold in your heart that the sorrow will lift, the grief will subside, and you will smile again.
What a difficult time for you and I'm so very sorry on the loss of your sister last year and that your boyfriend is so ill.
Susan, my brother married, a week later my mother died in my arms (July 19, 2007), a week later, her brother in law died, a week later ex fiance father died who I just loved, two months later two good friends died of cancer, five months later my mothers best friend who attended her wake and burial died of cancer, lost my job in May, my sister in law lost her first baby two weeks before Christmas and my most precious doggie child Toby died too.
Death was hanging around in my house and among our friends and yet, my strong faith in God kept me going. Who am I to judge Almighty....during the grief process, I was very angry at God, because I asked why did my mother have to died suffocated. She died of respiratory and heart failure. She couldn't breath, yet, my faith is so strong where and my mother's faith was so strong that she would have been angry at me with just the thought that I would "dare" be angry with God.
I can only discribe my experience as I have just lived through hell without my mother.
Your faith will be tested, but trust in God and He will give you the strenght to "survive".
I wanted to died. I wanted to be with my mother and not on this earth, but I believe in God, have faith in God and trust in God that one day in His time, I will see my mother again, but He want you to be strong, lean on Him and He will get you through this.
Hard days ahead, but you will survive one day at a time and with the help from God.
Also, no matter how difficult it's going to get, be there for your fiance and tell him how much you love him now and not to be afraid, God is with him.
Judy
Susan, my brother married, a week later my mother died in my arms (July 19, 2007), a week later, her brother in law died, a week later ex fiance father died who I just loved, two months later two good friends died of cancer, five months later my mothers best friend who attended her wake and burial died of cancer, lost my job in May, my sister in law lost her first baby two weeks before Christmas and my most precious doggie child Toby died too.
Death was hanging around in my house and among our friends and yet, my strong faith in God kept me going. Who am I to judge Almighty....during the grief process, I was very angry at God, because I asked why did my mother have to died suffocated. She died of respiratory and heart failure. She couldn't breath, yet, my faith is so strong where and my mother's faith was so strong that she would have been angry at me with just the thought that I would "dare" be angry with God.
I can only discribe my experience as I have just lived through hell without my mother.
Your faith will be tested, but trust in God and He will give you the strenght to "survive".
I wanted to died. I wanted to be with my mother and not on this earth, but I believe in God, have faith in God and trust in God that one day in His time, I will see my mother again, but He want you to be strong, lean on Him and He will get you through this.
Hard days ahead, but you will survive one day at a time and with the help from God.
Also, no matter how difficult it's going to get, be there for your fiance and tell him how much you love him now and not to be afraid, God is with him.
Judy
I feel your pain. When my mom was in the hospital for the same reason, I would cry every day. On the way to the hospital, on the way home, while I waited for her to get out of radiation. I remember thinking I didn't want to do this. Seeing her in pain was the hardest part. The other hardest part was her own realization that she was going to die. I tried my best to be strong for her, so I would yell and scream in my car, on my way home or anywhere... ( people must have thought I was crazy). You have every right to feel this way, I send you love and prayers.
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