By wife of 42 years has died

[vidgie]

My wife pased away two months ago today, after a long battle with cancer since 1986. I love her so much that it is so hard to go on without her. All my friends say that I had the perfect wife and I feel the same. She was so good to me, we did everything together and in 42 years of a beautiful marrage we never ever quarled. I don't seem to want to be with other people, I just want her back but I know that is never going to happen. I cry all the time because I miss her so much. My beautiful Charleen was so brave, she handeled her disease so well, she never complained, she was such a inspiration to all who knew her. She was always thinking of others and how she could help them, even in her last days she was knitting little teddy bears to send to the poor people in Hati after the Tsunami. She was always so kind and gentel she tried to make her passing easy for me by not complaing of all the pain she was in. She was such a wonderful woman and I find it so hard to live without her. I miss her so much I feel so alone. Is there anyone who can help me get over my grief....................Vidgie

[JenneB]

I am on the other side of the coin.  My husband died 12 weeks ago after 45 years of marriage after a long battle with cancer.  He also was very brave, all he kept saying was "how are you going to cope".  I assured him I would manage because I had been the manager in everything throughout our life together.  How wrong can be you be.  I now realise my strength came from his belief in me.  We were both very shy when we met but after the children were born I seemed to become braver.  Now I know that it was my husband's faith and belief in me that gave me the strength.  I cannot even seem to think what to do one moment from the next now.

[cheshchesh819]

she sounded like a very loving strong caring woman,and all the memories you have of her are wounderful ones.

[vidgie]

Thanks for the support, crying is something I do a lot of these days, I wish I had my wifes courage and strenth, she was my rock. During her illness I tried to do everything for her to make her life easier and all she wanted to do was to do for me and make my life easier. A week before my wife died she asked to see our priest and even on her death bed she was more concerned about his health then her own as he was just starting his battle with cancer. He was amazed by her concern for others and everytime there is a mass said for my wife he brings up his visit with her. While the priest was giving her absoultion and the anointing of oils she said to him " Father I am not afraid of dieing my bigest regret will be leaving my husband John behind all alone, I know how much he loves me and he will be so sad" My wife was so caring. It is so hard to be without her......................Vidgie

[cheshchesh819]

grief is a hard thing to deal with and i am really sorry for your loss,losing someone so close to you is heartbreaking,and it has only been 2 months so this is all still raw,you cry as much as you want and you talk about her as much as you can,always remember the good times you shared,and mainly always think just how lucky you both were to find each other and spend so many happy years together,noone can ever take that away from you,we are all here to listen to you,but you maybe also consider a councillor to help you with your grief.