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my youngest sister died Friday
This is not a question as much as just some where I can post how I am feeling right now. Yesterday my "little" sister died at the age of 51 years old. Two years ago in June of '08' my 2nd oldest sister died at the age of 54 years old. I am the 4th of 6 children and there are only 3 other siblings left alive. The youngest, my only brother, died after only 1 day on this planet. My father died at the age of 46 years old, his father died at the same age also. I am 53 years old and in the same medical condition as the those that have passed before me. I am very sad at losing so many members of my family but the death yesterday has me shaken to my very core. I do not want to sound insensitive but I'm worried sick about when my life is going to end. My oldest sister and I seem to be in a race to see which one of us is going to die 1st and when (she has the same medical conditions as me and the members of my family that I have mentioned above). I have few friends, due to moving, at this location and only my husband to turn to but I don't want to burden him with how I am feeling as he worries so much about now. I am not a religious person so I would never think about turning to the church for help. Both of our families are over 2000 miles away from my husband and I. We can only talk over the phone or by internet and right now they don't want contact with us, too long of a story to go into right now. So this forum is the only place I feel I can turn to to vent how I am feeling. Is there any one out there that can relate to this situation and could give my a word or two on how to get through it?
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Hi. I can relate in that I live with the fear of losing another loved one. I lost both parents when I was 25, then my youngest brother, my mother-in-law, father-in-law, a husband, a son, and a grandson. Then I almost lost my daughter when she was hit head on by a car going 85mph. We have an hereditary disease in our family, and I live in great fear. My son who is 39 has lived the longest with the disease. He has such a fulfilling life, is a marathoner, ultrathoner, mountain biker, speed hiker, competes in jujitsi, a gourmet chef and very happily married. He says he makes the best of everyday because it's not about the quantity of his life but the quality. He'd rather spend his time enjoying life than worrying it away. But then I do enough of this for both of us. I'm glad you found us, and we care and will support you in every way. Talking does help as well as journaling your thoughts and feelings everyday. I am so sorry for all your losses, it does tend to weigh heavily on us. I hope you can find some peace inside, and do take care.
Im sorry to hear about your loss. I promise you are not alone. I lost my mother when I was 5. When she died my dad kinda kept me sheltered and I really didnt get to know much of my family. Since then I have lost 2 aunts, grandmother, an uncle and my deer little boy. I am so scared of living. Ive become so numb to everything. I sit here and wonder when im going to go.Im only 25 and just want some happiness.
Sorry, did not realize I was at the Grief community.Anyway I hope you find peace....
Sorry for the loss of your sister, it is so hard to loose those you love. I to loss my sister,father,&most recently my precious mother.It really makes us more aware that life is so very fragile. I agree with madison come join us at the Grief & loss Community, their are some wonderful people there that will listen & give comfort & great advice.
Blessings
Lisa
Blessings
Lisa
i can't relate really..but i can say that the fear of death is scary..so i kind of understand how you feel
death is not something we can know for sure when will come unless we commit suicide..lol, we can't prevent death since that's part of life.
I can only advice you not to worry about it too much..try to keep a healthy lifestyle and enjoy your time, that's all you can do. Try to accept life as it comes.
death is not something we can know for sure when will come unless we commit suicide..lol, we can't prevent death since that's part of life.
I can only advice you not to worry about it too much..try to keep a healthy lifestyle and enjoy your time, that's all you can do. Try to accept life as it comes.
I lost my dad when I was 7 an ive found the grief&loss page very helpful. good luck it gets easyer :-)
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