my son recently died

[JUSTT]

why after he was born may 10th this year,14wks prem,with bowel on outside,he weighed 2lbs born,he was delivered emergency c sect 6wks after my only brother was killed on motorbike(passenger) he spent all his time in the nicu,he defyed all odds and was going so well we were expecting him home intime for christmas,he had 9th operation on the 8th nov,he came out of it better than ever 3 days later he was put on life support,something changed for the worse,he died monday 12th after several hits of addrenalin they got him back,tue 13th i lost him to the heavens,why does god take our babies,and loved ones,i found out 2wks b4 he died that am pregnant again,what is going on,will i loose this bub too,had classical c sect not 7mths ago,high risk of uterus rupturing..i am scared and feel ripped off

[girldirtbiker]

My sister was 42 when she died and had a 7 year old disabled son and a 1 1/2 old daughter.
It is the devestation of such a needed loss that gets me.
For me being held when I cry is what keeps me going. Just the love of being held by whomever helps so all of you loving family and friends - keep it us for us....we can get through with sadness, tears and pain....but we will make it.
tam

[TexasTea]

We just lost our 17 year old nephew in a car wreck, he was home for Thanksgiving from Texas A&M College, he hit a tree at the end of his mothers driveway and he immediately died. That was the day our world stopped turning. He died on Nov. 26, two days before his 18th birthday. We are so sad. I am especially worried about my brother who just lost his baby boy and his best friend. His heart is broken and he sees not point in trying to carry on. We stay in very close contact with him making sure he gets through this. His mother bought a new house and went on a cruise with the insurance money and acts like she won the lottery, so there is some anger there we need to work through, but for us, no amount of money could comfort us, only Christ. Any suggestions about my brother and helping him through this?

[red_1986]

I have had 2 younger brothers die one at 20 days in Christmas eve in 1995 then my pride and joy the reason I am still alive Michael died Aug 8th 2004. 14 years old was killed on his bike. My mom went to prision and I pretty much raised my brother anyway. I have avoided the issue using drugs to numb the pain until lately I am sober 30 days today. His 18th B-day is DEC 29th almost 4 years now and everday is horrible still i don't feel as if it will ever get better. Maybe God is giving you a 2nd chance maybe he has plans for you. You will never forget, but go to counsling, talk about it and keep talking always remember that love for your child will always live deep with in your heart and soul. Michael is my angel he always has my back I feel him near me now that I sober. I went to a grief support group last night, I talked and talked about my love, feeling, broken promises everything. I felt so much better. I also believe tears clense the spirit cry and never be afraid to feel. that is now my biggest regret not being in tune with my feelings. My prayers go out to you. I wish you the very, very best with this pregnancy. Pray... if for nothing else the strenght to just carry on one day at a time. This to shall pass... You we will be OK as along you feel... That is just my thoughts and exspirence. Good Luck keep me posted and I will keep you in my prayers.

[JUSTT]

i am sorry to hear of your loss too,how old was your bub sis?  my bro was just 30 and was a father of four daughters..he was killed when the guy riding the bike seen police and pulled the throttle bro didnt have a choice at all,i know he would have been so scared of the speeds they were travelling, it was the day after my 32nd bday,and also being saint patricks day,a lucki day here in australia"apparently"...life seems so unfair...i hope to hear from you again soon and some more of your story,thank you for your help and understanding

[girldirtbiker]

Darlin.....
I am honestly teary eyed. I tell my kids all the time if I lost them, I would end up who knows where - I would just walk and walk and walk, and never stop.
You did get ripped of DAMN IT! And it pisses me off too that people have to suffer loss of dear ones to them also. The famous unanswered question WHY, do the good hearted and wonderful people get taken off this earth when there are horrible people left here? I dont get it either, but  that does not change that it happens. I myself we are strong and we will get through and one day you will be together again, when it is your time. All things happen for a reason, and it is hard when we dont know what the reason is. Keep your faith, and chin up sweeite.
How old was your brother? I just lost my only baby sis!
Post again...How are you doing today?
~peace and grace
tam

[Aint_It_Fun]

Sorry about that, I know how it feels to lose someone your close to. God takes our loved ones because thats just the cycle of life. Buildings are built and toppled....Flowers Bloom...wither and die ect... I believe we're put here as a test of faith, This life is nothing compaired to whats spose to be after and god knows he didnt really take them from you. I bet your sons up there with your bro right now waiting for your cycle to be over. You'll see him again someday, Just dont lose faith. I'v lost my Grandpa, Dad, friend Rebecca and almost my Sister so i know all to well how it feels. I hope you find peace of mind through all of this.