chennai's tertiary hospital's inertia

[rahav]

why do we have the so called 5 star hospitals in Chennai.Recently my son was referred to a orthopedist by his family doctor for a kind of abscess in the head of left division of gastrocnemus muscle (left side of calf muscle)The area was swollen ,painful and touching it gave him more pain.He is[was]35 years old and had fever with chills for a week.Seen by the orthopedic doctor assured me there is nothing to worry about ,only a few tests to rule out cancer in the leg.My boy was a bit  breathless throughout the whole week ,more so after his admission in the hospital.He did x-ray,e.c.g and x-ray of leg.Then he told me he still have suspicions that it could be a cancer[that is after a x-ray which he said was normal.The boy with mild breathlessness not attended to was asked by the doctor to go and get M.R.I. Leg.I did that and the result came as ?Chondroma.By this time my son was not even able to talk using his cellphone and sort of breathing labored.Then the doc said he wanted to rule out metastasis and again we went in our car for one gamma nuclear scan.there the boy was not even able to lie down[by this time he had been not able to lie down even to sleep.He used to have nap reclining]--the man in-charge coaxed him and the test was done which came as negative.On 6/Aug/o9 at 12.30 a.m he developed severe breathlessness and the duty doctor said they have made a diagnosis of PULMONARY EMBOLISM  and since they had the cause for all these symptoms my son had clearly diagnosed [these after 3 days stay in the same hospital] he was quite sure he will rally around.I think i swooned at the time and at 3 p.m as I came around, I was informed irrespective of all their effort my son DIED AROUND 2.30 A.M.Just for clarification that he might have any other bad habits or disease i solemnly promise you now that he had none& he was of robust health before..THIS IS A ACCOUNT FROM A WAILING FATHER AND BEING AN INDIAN BELIEVING IN KARMA, I HAVE nothing else to tell to you.Will this be considered as a question or not ,I have no idea.I thank this forum for this.NOW TO SLEEP IS NEXT TO IMPOSSIBLE.The time is 2.50A.M.To be frank I am keying this because one CANNOT TYPE WITH TEARS IN HIS EYES.The option of typing keeps away my  GRIEF A LITTLE BIT AWAY.THANKS FOR THIS CHANCE.BYE.

[knowitallboss]

Thanks for your genuine attempt to wean me away from grieving almost always.I am a Hindu and though i have read i don't know about Job and I will get a bible at earliest opportunity.Strictly speaking i am not a religious person.
I am one of those types who clings to GOD only they have trouble.This tragedy has sapped away so much of my enthusiasm,i have not open a single book till now.
JUDY gave me kind of practical approach  and you , now lead my way towards spiritual way.
I JUST WANT TO THANK BOTH OF YOU A THOUSAND TIMES.
Indebted knowitallboss(and how much i hate this nick name now)

[Lisi251]

Please know that Job in the bible lost all his children went through so much lost
all his friends got very ill & wanted to give up but never did in the end God blessed him
10 times over. You have to make it through so one day you will be with him again
in a place that tears will be no more neither death please remember that on your
hardest days & I hope it will give you a little extra strength to get through one day at a
time.
I have been thinking of you and praying for you.You are a great father with a great love
& your son was very blessed to have that in his life not everyone finds that in a whole
lifetime.

Bless you
Lisa

[knowitallboss]

Lisa Thanks.I too feel i have to come in terms with what was over and start living as a normal person,however hard it may be.Yours is a pragmatic approach to life.The thought that was really killing me(still does)-was that i am outliving my son.Sometimes i feel i have failed somewhere in the cosmic circle , have made a wrong move- that kind of things that brings or become curse --to continue living.Live i definitely will but i cannot bring myself--not even able to guess -if there ever will be a day , when i will be able to smile as before.                            I have really forgotten when i coined my nickname.Now it looks as if  its mocking at my arrogance .THANKS LISA AND JUDY you both were really wonderful.I certainly remember your coming to help--till the end of my life,sooner the better.THANKS AGAIN.

[Lisi251]

I am very sorry for your loss,we as parents are not suppose to have to outlive
our children.The circumstances make it even harder to deal with.
Please know that you did everything humanly possible that could be done to try
to get him the care he needed.
Of course we put our trust in doctors what else can we do.
My heart goes out to you

Lisa

[knowitallboss]

First i thank you for the response.Its sort of nice to know that someone out there has felt sorry for my pathetic condition.As to the suggestion  I really thought of doing something to bring out the lackadaisical approach of the hospital and thoroughly unprofessional way of the orthopedist.A friend of mine who stayed there (while i have been out of focus and made to lie down somewhere)said there was frantic activity inside and many of the senior doctors were frantically consulting and the orthopedist was called and he and the other doctors were seen writing frantically in the case sheet they keep.I genuinely believe they cooked up entire NEW VERSION.My friend is very close to me  and I know him for the past 30 years.We had the medicine bills with time and date automatically printed on the slip.Somebody known to me said they should have given some blood thinning agents anticipating the chance of PULMONARY EMBOLISM.A advocate took the bills to a doctor friend of him.He was very sure the bill did not have any blood thinning agent on any of the bills.The advocate still felt the doctors could have simply wrote in the case sheet of theirs as if the blood thinning agent was given by them from the hospital itself.He was quite sure they would be presenting a very neat case sheet in the court with every loop hole attended to.Moreover judges here in  INDIA generally view these cases as waste of time because of the heavy work load they are dealing with.I CAN UNDERSTAND THIS WILL ALL BE PERPLEXING TO YOU.Just to put things in right perspective i will tell you what our SUPREME COURT CHIEF JUSTICE has said.It is if EVEN NO CASE WAS NEWLY FILED IT WILL TAKE 133 YEARS TO CLEAN UP ALREADY FILED CASES.We did not do any thing as i myself had lost the will to at live that time.THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR KINDNESS.

[Judy246]

I'm so very sorry for the unexpected, sudden passing of your beloved son. I would contact an medical attorney to obtain his medical files for review of his treatment and make sure that all proper procedures were completed in a timely manner. You might have a law suit, but only a medical attorney or mal practice attorney will be able to investigate the records, medical treatment and decide if physician behavior was proper.

Once again, my deepest condolences to you and your family.  Judy