Nearly 1 year later

[Nat_16]

Hi all
It will be one year since I lost my grandfather on Jan 21st.  My grandfather and I were very close and I miss him everyday.  People tell me I should get over it and move on but it all seems so hard, even 12 months later.  My grandad is the first family member I lost and I would appreciate any advice about how to deal with the loss of my grandad.

Thanks... Natalie

[Nat_16]

Hi there Judy - condolences on your mums passing.  Thanks heaps for all your advice...I know what you mean by the firsts being difficult, I had my birthday a week back and it was the first one where Grandad wasnt there - boy that was hard!!

Thanks again for everything you said, it makes alot of sense and has given me a boost making it a bit easier to move forward with my life...I am going to make him proud...Natalie

[Judy246]

also, the first everything is very difficult (Anniversary, birthday, father's day etc.). You will have good days and you will have very difficult day, but that is normal and part of the grief process. If anyone tells you that you should get over it by know, tell them that unless they have walked in your shoes and have experienced the loss of their grandfather or loved one, they can't possibly understant what you are going through. It's deep, painful and you miss and love him. He will always be a part of you and pray for him and talk to him the way you talked to him in the past...he (his spirit, which never dies) can hear you and he is only a prayer and transition away. Death is cruel, but one thing death can't do is take away the eternal love he has for you and he is your new guardian angel, so it's ok to grieve and not time on the grief process, but with time, the pain and loss will ease, but we never truly get over the people we love the most, especially grandpa. Hugs,Judy

[Judy246]

Hi Natalie, I think I just answered your question in the first post, but, I my deepest condolences on the passing of your beloved grandfather. Natalie, he was your grandfather and without him, you would have not been born. Your grandfather loved you very much and unconditionally. He would never want you to suffer in anyway and he is in peace.

There is no time frame on grief. I will never get over losing my mother. I felt as if I wanted to die and be with her and I felt like an orphan. It's ok to cry, feel sad and grieve, because you have suffered a great loss, but make your grandfather very proud by being a good person and live life to it's fullest as he would want you to live it. Make him proud of you as a human being, but go out there and live life to the fullest.

Believe, have faith and trust in God that one day when God will call on you, your grandfather is going to come running to you from the gates of heaven and be the guiding light and show you the way. It's going to be ok...one day at a time.  Judy