You were right as far as the HIV goes! It did come back negative however the test was taken 3 weeks after possible exposure. Shall I retake in a few months? Also as far herpes go unfortunately that was positvie....I am now dealing with that. I am still havin a hard time understanding how it was transmitted since ...but I guess you can't rewrite what happened. Either way please let me know about retaking the hiv test??
Welcome to the HIV forum.
You are overreacting quite a bit. Heterosexual HIV transmission is less common than you seem to think and it would be very unusual for anybody with your and your partner's sexual histories to catch HIV. If both your and your boyfriend's other partners were not injection drug users, and if your male partners were not gay/bi men, it is very unlikely they had HIV. And even if they had it, the condoms were 100% protective, for all practical purposes.
It is true that having herpes increases the risk of HIV infection if exposed, but it is still the rare exposure that results in HIV even in the presence of herpes. IF one of your partners had HIV, and IF no condom had been used, then the chance you would have caught it was around 1 in 1,000. With genital HSV-2 infection, that would go up to only 1 in 500.
As for herpes, why do you assume you caught it? In the absence of symptoms, it is unlikely you did. It is much more transmissible than HIV, but still not all that frequent. Among married couples in whom one has genital herpes and the other does not, and who do not use condoms or take any other precations, up to half the spouses remain free of herpes for many years. And even if you were exposed to herpes, it doesn't necearily mean you were also exposed to HIV. Probably not.
Bottom line: It is very unlikely you caught either HIV or herpes. Please try to relax as you await the test results; I expect both your and your partner's tests to be negative. Feel free to return to this thread with a comment to tell me the result of the HIV test. But I won't have any further comments until then.
Regards-- HHH, MD