Chaffed penis and vaginal fluids

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Much increased masturbation led to very dry skin around my penis (uncircumsized) and actually sometimes pain when I would wash it in the shower.  

Well the other day my boredom got the best of me and went to a local massage parlor.  Due to my anxiety over HIV I was only going to go for a handjob but it ended up in having sex.  A condom was put on with her mouth but it was extremely painful.  She toothed my penis and I had to tell her to watch her teeth.  We then proceded to have sex which I was not into much and i was running out of energy trying to *** so the sex was intense.  I couldnt finish so she took off the condom and then proceded to masturbate me with what appeared to be the vaginal fluids from the condom that she had taken off as her hands are moist.  

So I know protected sex=no risk.  But what about my situation where vaginal fluids came in contact with a chaffed penis?  I really haven't read questions like this and it has me concerned.  I didn't have "active bleeding" but it was very red, sensititve and...well...chaffed.

One final question. I noticed a slight red bump that went away quickly and it was probably from her "toothy" blowjob putting on the condom.  If she tore the condom with her teeth, would the condom break or pop? Is that how they work?  WHen I pulled out and she took off the condom it was still on.
thanks

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Can I imagine a theoretically slightly increased risk of transmission, given the nature of the exposure, chafing, etc?  Yes.  But when the risk is near zero (low chance your partner had HIV, plus basically protected sex except hand-genital contact), even doubling the risk doesn't significantly raise the odds of catching HIV.  (2 times near-zero = near-zero.)

If a condom looks intact, it is intact.  Micrcscopic or invisible nicks or defects probably to not materially increase the risk of HIV/STD transmission.

Bottom line:  I see no reason for concern.  But if your anxieties aren't relieved by this advice and a negative test result would help, get tested 6 weeks after the exposure.

Good luck--  HHH, MD

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One follow up as someone brought something to my attention. Is the reason its still not really any risk because if with the chaffing on my penis the fact that vaginal fluids were exposed to air (taking the condom off put her hand with the fluids exposed to air for a few seconds and then masturbating me) negate some of the properties of HIV virus?  SOmeone said that it needs a very specific environment and that would be having the penis inside the vagina exposed to deep vaginal secretions within the body?  Sorry for the follow up I just want to understand this a little better. THanks.