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GOT MY GF TESTED - CONSIDERING MARRIAGE - PLS HELP
Dear Dr HHH / Dr Hook
I know I shouldnt be posting this often and this is definitely my last post, but more than anything else i just need a piece of advice from your years of experience to calm my mind which is driven by OCD currently.
I am in India and making the long story short, i met this girl 5 months back and have known her for sometime, everything seems very positive about her in terms of her family background etc, she broke up with her ex 1.5 years back and had indulged in protected sex always.She claims she hasnt been intimate with anyone since then.
Anyway as a caution i got her tested with an HIV RNA test qualitative & HIV Duo along with a full panel STD which all came back negative.
Here are my questions:-
1. My OCD mind now says what if shes in a window period and has done something i dont know off in the last few days before we met?
2. Its been 1 month since the Tests, should i get her tested again?
3. Statistically is it possible or Am I Over reacting?
4. If you were in my situation how would you approach this?
Please help me with the reassurance i very badly need.
I know I shouldnt be posting this often and this is definitely my last post, but more than anything else i just need a piece of advice from your years of experience to calm my mind which is driven by OCD currently.
I am in India and making the long story short, i met this girl 5 months back and have known her for sometime, everything seems very positive about her in terms of her family background etc, she broke up with her ex 1.5 years back and had indulged in protected sex always.She claims she hasnt been intimate with anyone since then.
Anyway as a caution i got her tested with an HIV RNA test qualitative & HIV Duo along with a full panel STD which all came back negative.
Here are my questions:-
1. My OCD mind now says what if shes in a window period and has done something i dont know off in the last few days before we met?
2. Its been 1 month since the Tests, should i get her tested again?
3. Statistically is it possible or Am I Over reacting?
4. If you were in my situation how would you approach this?
Please help me with the reassurance i very badly need.
thanks a ton Dr.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
You are correct. You are mis-using this Forum. The reason we ask clients to post no more than 2 questions in any six month period is to permit others to have access to the limited time and space available to answer questions. I could simply delete this question but, instead, I will provide a single response. No follow-up questions or clarifications will be permitted and if you post again before November of 2013 the questions will be deleted without comment.
As for your specific questions:
The pseudonym you use describes your situation. Your fears are irrational and without justification. Further, given the sexual history you have shared in this and other MedHelp Forums, some would argue that it is more appropriate for her to get you tested than the other way around. This is a poor way to begin a marriage.
1. My OCD mind now says what if shes in a window period and has done something i dont know off in the last few days before we met?
This is your OCD getting the better of you. The so called "window period" is extraordinarily rare and that she was tested long after her last sex means that you are long past that. Between the DUO test and the RNA PCR, you can be completely confident she is not infected.
2. Its been 1 month since the Tests, should i get her tested again?
No, as I said above, there is no need for this. Repeat testing would be a waste of time and money.
3. Statistically is it possible or Am I Over reacting?
Yes, without a doubt you are over reacting.
4. If you were in my situation how would you approach this?
I would not have had my partner tested, I would have believed her. I would not have any concerns about sex with this partner.
As I said, this will be my only response. Take care. EWH
As for your specific questions:
The pseudonym you use describes your situation. Your fears are irrational and without justification. Further, given the sexual history you have shared in this and other MedHelp Forums, some would argue that it is more appropriate for her to get you tested than the other way around. This is a poor way to begin a marriage.
1. My OCD mind now says what if shes in a window period and has done something i dont know off in the last few days before we met?
This is your OCD getting the better of you. The so called "window period" is extraordinarily rare and that she was tested long after her last sex means that you are long past that. Between the DUO test and the RNA PCR, you can be completely confident she is not infected.
2. Its been 1 month since the Tests, should i get her tested again?
No, as I said above, there is no need for this. Repeat testing would be a waste of time and money.
3. Statistically is it possible or Am I Over reacting?
Yes, without a doubt you are over reacting.
4. If you were in my situation how would you approach this?
I would not have had my partner tested, I would have believed her. I would not have any concerns about sex with this partner.
As I said, this will be my only response. Take care. EWH
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