Thanks for the detailed description, it certainly makes it easier for me to comment on your situation. As you already know, condom protected sex is low risk so there is no risk from your condom protected exposures. Your question really boils down to IF she has HIV, could she have infected you by transfer of her own vaginal secretions from the outside of a contaminated condom to her mouth and then infected you through unprotected oral sex. The simple answer is no. The reasons for this are both theoretical and data from observation. These include:
1. As you know, the mouth is a hostile environment for HIV. If there had been HIV in her genital secretions, it would not have survived long in her mouth.
2. She was probably not infected. She told you this and most people do tell the truth. In addition, you should assume that she used the condom to protect herself from you, not the other way around. This too makes it unlikely she was going to infect you.
3. Even if she had HIV, the risk of transmssion through oral sex is less than 1 transmission per 10.000 exposure and probably far less..
4. While your circumcision status might influence your risk from genital sex, there are no data on oral sex. Further, since she was probably not infected, this becomes a moot point.
5. No one has EVER been described to get HIV in the manner you describe
My assessment. Your HIV risk is close to, if not zero. Your 6 week test will be negative and when it is, you should accept this as evidence that you do not have HIV.
As far as herpes is concerned, again the risk is very, very low. If you were going to develop herpes, lesions would have been expected to asppear within 2 weeks after your exposrue. Thus you are not at risk for this either.
Hope these comments help. Your risk is close to zero and once you have been tested and have a negative test result, you should consider this as proof that you did not get HIV from this exposure. eWH
Dr. Hook,
Thank you for putting this into perspective for me. What yourself and Dr. HHH do on these forums is a wonderful and special thing.