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HIV exposure Unprotected Vaginal
I had unprotected sex with a woman who smoked cocaine---I did not know this about her. She is very exhausted from telling me she is neg---though wont go get tested with me--I think because I have insulted her tremendously. My last incident with her was over 3 weeks ago---and first time over 5. I know symptoms mean nothing--I have had no fever--or rash--yesterday I got a cold sore--which I am prone to getting--I think its because of my anxiety. I refused an orasure test because of the false positive rate. I am nervous and cant sleep for days and not eating. Today I feel fullness around my jaw---but no nodes----dont know if I slept wrong or something. A girl I know for sure is not positive slept with me at 3 weeks and 10 days--shes also not displaying symptoms. I was insertive had sex with her a total of 4 seperate times. I am circumsized. But I keep having a vision of being told I am positive--like i deserve it...My job is at stake---and my graduate program. Please help.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Read my intial answer. You are over reacting here. Your risk, as I explained, is very, very low. Sadly, there is a lot of mis information avilable through the internet and if you look long enough, I can promise you that you can find just about any answer you wish. Because of this, your job (no one else can do it) it to decide who you wish to believe. We will not engage in debates with other internet sites on this forum.
The fact of the matter if that at 2 weeks post exposure about half of tests that are going to be postive will be. At 4 weeks the figure rises to between 85 and 90%. Given all that has been said, I would assume that, when combined with your already very low risk, the negative test results you have shifts you to a place where the probability of having gotten HIV from her is near zero. I would urge you to assume that is the case.
I have little more to say. It is time for this thread to end. No further questions please- you do not have HIV. EWH
The fact of the matter if that at 2 weeks post exposure about half of tests that are going to be postive will be. At 4 weeks the figure rises to between 85 and 90%. Given all that has been said, I would assume that, when combined with your already very low risk, the negative test results you have shifts you to a place where the probability of having gotten HIV from her is near zero. I would urge you to assume that is the case.
I have little more to say. It is time for this thread to end. No further questions please- you do not have HIV. EWH
I was fine until all the people in the forums started killing my reality and saying my 4 week test was no good. I started digging deeper and realized it was 3 weeks and like 4 days and not 4 weeks....I dont know if HIV goes by calendar days! Jesus this is sooo stupid---Im never having sex again.....I was with her for 8 weeks second to last time was almost 6 weeks ago and last time is 4 weeks----CAN I ASSUME that I am not so unlucky that I only got infected the last time we had sex? And it just happens to be the wrong time to test in conjunction? Jesus....If it were 90% of people wont test POZ at 4 weeks then I should worry--instead I am sitting here stressing---please lets cease this thread--make it clear to me why I should or should not worry!
could you comment?
You have members on here that seem to disgard information you give us----Teak is one stating that my test is basically worthless---and only 13 weeks is good enough....Im done with forums and information overload---Im sticking with my counselor.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Feel comfortable and stop worrying. It is time for you to move on. EWH
Can I feel comfotable with this? She said she has been doing this for a decade--rarely over 4 weeks does someone not show poz.A friend of mine sort of scared me todat into thinking it wasnt enough time. This is my last question.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Glad to hear it. Take care. EWH
Tested 6 weeks since the first exposure 1 month since the second----counselor said for the type of exposure---can test again for peace of mind---but she said 99 percent sure im neg---thanks....20 minute oraquick advance rapid test
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
The defintion of "very" varies from person to person. EVen for rectal sex transmission of HIV occurs only 1 in every 100 exposures. A 1% chance is not very efficient in my book. that is not to say that I endorse taking un-needed risks, I do not. It is to say however that most people who have exposures that, in retrospect, they wish they had not do not wind up infected. EWH
Sexual transmission is not very effiecient? Do you mean vaginal? or sex in general---because sex is he primary cause isnt it.
Dr. Hunter claimed in another post that certain groups--people in jail, IV drug users and bisexual men are at high risk----Yet you say most people dont---Also--I have had no symptoms---neither has my girlfriend who may be at risk...I got back with my GF after the last time I slept with the woman in question. so my risk of 1-250 thats just as high as anal sex---out of 2 people--wouldnt woman person have some kind of symptoms? I find other places that say yes and others say no---my friend does HIV counseling and said that they dont rely on symptoms because people may or may not ignore them etc or may not notice them...I have not been ill at all nor my GF in 4 weeks since exposure.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
You need to be tested. The chances are quite high that your partner did not have HIV and your anxiety is not only effecting you but is also effecting your relationships with others. A few things for you to consider:
1. Most people who have smoked cocaine and/or had partners who were in jail do not have HIV.
2. She told you she does not have HIV. Most people tell the truth
3. Even in the very unlikely situation that she had HIV, sexual transmission is not very efficient, only occurring, on average, once every 1000 exposures. If you had sex with her 4 times and she had HIV, your chances of infection are about 1 in 250.
4. Getting tested will have no influence whatsoever on whether or not you have HIV, only give you the information to get over your high degree of anxiety (the most likely outcome) or allow you to start getting treated.
5. Your statement that your job and graduate is overly dramatic. The fact is that to loose your job or a place in school if you were HIV infected is illegal.
6. The symptoms you report are meaningless
Bottom line. Go get tested and get the information you need to move forward with your life. EWH
1. Most people who have smoked cocaine and/or had partners who were in jail do not have HIV.
2. She told you she does not have HIV. Most people tell the truth
3. Even in the very unlikely situation that she had HIV, sexual transmission is not very efficient, only occurring, on average, once every 1000 exposures. If you had sex with her 4 times and she had HIV, your chances of infection are about 1 in 250.
4. Getting tested will have no influence whatsoever on whether or not you have HIV, only give you the information to get over your high degree of anxiety (the most likely outcome) or allow you to start getting treated.
5. Your statement that your job and graduate is overly dramatic. The fact is that to loose your job or a place in school if you were HIV infected is illegal.
6. The symptoms you report are meaningless
Bottom line. Go get tested and get the information you need to move forward with your life. EWH
I should also mention her ex was in prison for 2 years....before they dated---but they were long time friends and she claims he has nothing. SHe also has a 5 year old son. Her mom said she was tested 2 years ago...etc etc....I noticed you mentioned prison in another post.
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