Welcome to our Forum. You report several sorts of unprotected sexual encounters with different partners going back over a decade. I'll provide some facts about HIV and HIV transmission which I hope will help you to understand that your risk for HIV is very, very low. To be absolutely sure you will need additional testing a few weeks from now but I would urge you not to worry while you wait for that time to come.
Here are the facts:
1. HIV is uncommon. There are over 350 million people living in the United States of whom 1 million have HIV. Thus, on the basis of this fact alone your chances of having HIV are less than 3 in 1000. Then, realizing that infections are more common among men who have sex with other men, drug users and minorities, the chances that your partner was infected are still lower. Most people would estimate that the risk of any of your partners having HIV is close to 1 in 10,000.
2. Oral sex does not put you at risk for HIV. there are no convincing, well documented cases of HIV transmission by oral sex so you can forget about those exposures.
3. If you were exposed through unprotected vaginal sex, the risk for transmission is low with transmission estimated to occur about once in every 1000 acts of intercourse.
Thus, putting these numbers together, you can see that there is little risk of HIV from the exposures you mentions. Then when your HIV test comes back negative tomorrow as I am confident it will, you have only 1 further exposure to worry about. To rule out infection from that exposure, you can get tested with a DUO (combination HIV p24 antigen/HIV antibody) test and get a definitive answer at 4 weeks and get a definitive answer which, I am again confident, will prove that you did not get HIV then either.
As for STDs, you can be tested for the most common STDs, gonorrhea and chlamydial infection any time more than 2-3 days after exposure and be confident in the result.
I hope this comment helps. you really have very, very little to worry about. EWH
just to clarify it was a 21 yro woman whom i engaged in oral and vaginal sex with about 5 times
Still low risk. Try not to worry. EWH