Welcome back to the forum. However, I'm concerned you've gotten into the habit of having sex -- generally of a low risk sort -- then coming to this forum for reassurance about it. Probably you have observed a pattern: we tell you your exposure was very low risk; that most female sex workers don't have HIV; that your symptoms don't suggest HIV, and even if they did, symptoms are never a useful indicator of a new HIV infection; that the way to be sure is to have an HIV test, which we often recommend for reassurance even when the risk was low; and that the standard HIV test (or combination of tests) is conclusive sooner than the official advice you will find from CDC and other sources.
Most of that implies to the current situation. The cunnlingus episode was no risk; HIV has never been reported to be transmitted by oral-vaginal contact, and in any case your negative test result 8 weeks later shows you weren't infected.
The condom failure in anal sex with another man (transgender sure, but anatomically male) could be high risk -- but apparently your partner had a negative rapid HIV test, so you obviously were not exposed. Your risk of HIV indeed would be higher if you have genital herpes due to HSV-2 (but not HSV-1) -- but not an issue since your partner doesn't have HIV.
Have you had a definite diagnosis of HSV-2 (genital) and HSV-1 (usually oral)? Having a recurrent outbreak 8 days after sex doesn't suggest you caught HIV. In fact, the biggest STD transmission risk in this event, if indeed you have genital herpes, is the possibility you infected the sex worker. You have an ethical obligation to tell her about your herpes, if you haven't done so already.
So all things considered, I see no cause for worry about HIV. However, because of the condom failure, it would be a good idea to be tested for other STDs. I suggest a gonorrhea and chlamydia urine test and, after a few weeks, a syphilis blood test. I see no need for HIV testing -- but of course you are free to do that in a few weeks if the negative result would be reassuring. As noted above, and as you have been told in other threads, you don't need to wait 3 months; 4-6 weeks is enough, depending on the specific test(s) done. Below I have provided links to two threads that discuss the reasons HIV testing is reliable before the official 3 months interval.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1704700
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1891685
You're welcome to keep returning to the forum, as long as you follow the rules about multiple questions (maximum 2 every 6 months -- see Terms and Conditions). But given your multiple discussions with much the same advice each time, it really shouldn't be necessary.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD