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Hello All y'all

My Best Friend was diagnosed with HIV.   She is a professional mom of two and married.  She got sucked into prowling for **** and really  went crazy.  It is like a drug to have great sex. Honestly, she is the last person in the world that I would think to be HIV.  Her husband gave her permission for both of them to have protected sex with other people, only the condom broke with a guy.  That night she slept with the DEVIL whether or not he was aware of his status.  My point is, she took pills to die, she is in a high suicide watch place to help her (thankfully) but when she comes out, her life is never, ever going to be the same.  This is for one f'n random f' at a gym with a broken condom! No one deserves this people! There is evil in the world, and we need to be aware of it.  Today I am devistated for my very best friend and I will only tll it on this blog, because I have to pick my lump off the rug and get it together for her! So i make peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and kiss boo -boo's.

My friend got a terminal diagnosis today, no matter how long it takes, it is terminal.  I have cried all damn day and will for a long time.  I am trying to empower myself.  I just want to say, heterosexual gals, we are at risk!!!! Damnit!! We are at tremenduous risk! Be Careful. God, as much as some love him, will not save you from evil on earth!  Godbless you all!


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Look, I might sound unreasonable but you can't change what's true. She's been irresponsible and that's what it is. Why? She was married, she had a good husband and lying around was not necessary. Though I empathize with you Helpthis33 but you would have to understand that being bounded in a relationship, was it necessary to go out and have sex with other people?

However, I completely understand that it's not the right time for me to be judgmental. All I would like to do is to stick to the point - Since, she's diagnosed with HIV, she needs counseling at the first place to understand that it's not a death sentence for her, she would have to change her lifestyle from now and understand that in todays world, HIV is nothing but a chronic manageable disease. Please, ask her to consult a specialist and follow the regime prescribed to her.

Good luck

Mike
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  Wow, this is terrible news H.T33, and will be a very difficult time in your friendship...it's really good of you to be there for her children right now. I hate hiv, you know, it's a piece of $hit disease that destroys the quality of peoples lives, not allowing for any second chances, topped off with the length of time people have to endure being ill... i hate it. Sometimes i wonder if it would not be better if it only lasted two weeks if it would not be better like this, than the way it is. The good thing is that your friend will have the benefit of being able to raise up her children since modern meds offer positives a life expectancy that's next to normal HelpThis33. I really hope your friends mental state shows improvement for the children's sake. Stay strong, stay supportive your a good friend H.T33. Sorry to hear this...take care..
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hey iam sorry  about ur friend i just would love to ask u how long did it take her to find out? and what was the symptoms? god bless u and ur friend.
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We all live with a ternminal diagnosis the minute we were born.  It's
what we do with our lives in the time we have here on earth that counts.  I'm deeply sorry for your friend.  This will be a journey for both of you.  But the minute she decided to change the living arrangement she had in her marriage, she put herself at risk.  A risk that she could control.  A risk that had choices. No is a powerful
choice.
There is plenty of information available today about the risk of protected and unprotected sex.  I hope that your friend can see that HIV doesn't have to be a death sentence but could open the door to do the most with the life she is living now. There are support groups
of women living productive and meaningful lives that have HIV.  She needs to surround herself with positive and supportive people.
I'll say prayers for both of you.

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