Dear Dr. H,
I have gotten so much from reading this site. I truly believe in all your wise advice.
For the first time after reading your posts for years, I have a question I would like answered. Your wise advice would mean so much.
I consider myself a 30 year old gay man. Over the past 10 years, I have engaged in more than 100 (probably a lot more) mutual masturbation sessions and sometimes have been involved in three/foursomes where there is a lot of pre-*** and *** involved. In some instances, I am certain pre-*** of another person has been on my hands when I have had very minor cuts on my hands. Most of these men I dont know well at all. We have stroked ourselves as well as mutually stroked each other. I have never let a man give me oral sex and I have been afraid to perform oral sex although (as you can imagine) I dream about it. Obviously, anal sex was never a consideration.
Ive been paranoid since I was an adolescent of getting HIV and work with a therapist because I recognize this is a problem. I have been put on Lexapro, but still have this tremendous fear.
Perhaps because I hold you in high regard, I need your wise answer regarding the level of risk I have encountered. Although I have NEVER done anything but mutual masturbation, I am worried because I don't know most of these men at all. Do I need testing? Because I have always been so scared of HIV, I dont want to put myself through unnecessary stress, but will if you advise me to do so. I am hoping your answer will give the insights I need to move on with my life.
Dr. H, I wont take up anymore of your time. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Undoubtedly, there is a special place for you in heaven someday. You truly are one in a million and I hope you recognize this within yourself.