Welcome to our Forum. I'll be pleased to help address your questions. this was a no risk exposure, even in the unlikely circumstance that your partner had HIV (most commercial sex workers do not have HIV). The protective effect of the condom is preserved as long as it covers the head of the penis, preventing access of ano-genital secretions to the mucosa of your urethra (the inside surface of the penis). There is no reason for concern. Further, you seem to have been misinformed about when to test. Any HIV test obtained more than 8 weeks following an exposure provides definitive information. the 3 month recommendation is out of date.
As for your specific questions:
1. Without protection, if your partner was infected, the risk for infection would be about 1 in 200 exposures. As I said above however, you were not at risk.
2. The issue is not the thickness of the skin on the penis but, as I said, the thickness of mucosal skin which is more susceptible to infection than the skin of the outside of the penis.
Hope this helps. EWH
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