Thanks doctor. I take your point, but I am just trying to understand whether, if this is syphilis, that would change the risk factor for HIV transmission from this event.
I cannot make a diagnosis over the Internet. Syphilis is a rare disease and is rarely acquired from oral sex. My advice would be to seek evaluation by a trained clinician who can assess the lesion and test as is appropriate. EWH
Hi Doctor, may I ask your help one more time please. It's 21 days after the above experience and I have noticed a small round sore on my penis. I am freaking out because the timing and the sore match the online info about syphilis. I am adamant that the condom stayed on the whole time and did not rupture. Is it possible that I could have contracted syphilis from oral sex or some other way, or does this indicate that the condom failed and I was at risk for hiv transmission? I'm thinking of getting a 4th generation duo test and a test for syphilis on Monday (24 days after). Would that be pretty reliable if that came back negative for hiv? I don't know what to think about this. Your opinion would really help me at this difficult time. Thank you.
Glad to help. Take care. EWH
Hi Doctor, thanks very much for your quick response. Your explanation of the risks really helps. Think I'll still get a test at the 4 week mark but I feel a bit less anxious about things now
Welcome to our Forum. I'll try to help. We often hear of clients who fill condoms with water following sex to check for leaks. this is a messy waste of time. condoms do not "leak a little". When condoms fail, they break wide open leaving no doubt that they have failed. If your condom appears intact following sex, it is and has done its job and there is no need for additional “testing”.
You are doing things right. While in all probability a small proportion of persons do lie, most tell the truth. if yur partner said he was negative, he probably was. The combination of asking and correct and consistent condom use will almost certainly assure that you do not get HIV as long as condoms do not break.
If you wish to check for HIV to assure yourself that you were not infected, my advice would be to be tested using a 4th generation "DUO" (combination HIV p24 antigen/HIV antibody) test 4 weeks after exposure. Relative to the exposure you mention above, when you do, I am confident it will be negative.
I hope these comments are helpful to you. EWH