massage with cut and masturbation hiv concern

[veryworriedanxiety]

Please be honest and tell me impossible, no risk, low risk, possible risk etc

Lets assume she is +

CSW  I was clothed and she had very thin type see through dress on, stockings and no underwear. I really wanted to ensure the whole encounter was safe so I would not have anxiety after the event. I asked her to lay on her front and 2-3 minutes I massaged her body with her keeping the scantly clothes on. I know you say stds can't pass through clothes but this was a very thin dress material. I do not recall touching her skin direct. I definitely did not touch her genitals in any way and my penis remained in my trousers.

After the rubbing I took out my penis and masturbated myself. No contact with her and my penis. I came and then put my penis away.

I was not concerned until I got home and discovered I had a small cut just under one of my nails. I can not recall getting the cut. It was not bleeding but was very sore and looked open although no blood was visible.  I was not too worried until 2 weeks after the event I came down with a sore throat, mild fever, very heavy cough. Temperature has been between 36.5 and 37.5

My symptoms  have turned me in a nervous wreck thinking what if the lady had a cut on her body when I was rubbing her and the blood got into my cut on finger somehow through the thin material of the dress or stockings, or the same with vaginal fluid.

Also if there was blood or fluid on her body/dress and it got onto my hands would I have been at risk by immediately masturbating myself

Do I need to have a test or can I truly forget this and ignore any/all symptoms and move on in my life including unprotected sex with my pregnant partner?

I can add I do not recall any fluids, blood etc on my hands when I massaged her and didn't see any afterwards. My own cut I doubt was bleeding at the time otherwise I would have noticed it, but again lets talk worst case.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

You are being silly.  

There will be no further comments.  EWH

[veryworriedanxiety]

I suppose I was hoping to read Zero Risk . Thank you for your comments. I will report my test results which I pray will be what you believe.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Your anxiety is getting the best of you- do you think that the words "completely risk free" which used above have any hidden meaning- they do not.  EWH

[veryworriedanxiety]

Test booked for Friday - 28 days post exposure

Can you let me know how confident you are it will be negative as I see on some replies you give people complete reassurance with saying impossible to contract and you will receive a definitve negative etc but with me you just say confident.

I am sorry if I am just playing with words but my life is hell at the moment so I am hanging on each word you say.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Your exposure is completely risk free, thus there is no medical reason for testing.  On the other hand, if it will give you peace of mind over the events you described, then testing may be helpful.  If you choose to do this, I am confident your test result will be negative.  EWH

[veryworriedanxiety]

Thank you for your message. I suppose I just concerned as I am suffering a nightmare worry over this and will book myself in for a test.

Can I ask you if you think my test is a stupid thing to do based on my situation being 100 percent risk free: eg: impossible to have acquired HIV from what I have described - only massage with my hands on her through clothes and possibly on direct skin (not genitals)

Please help me here

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Sigh.... yes, even if she had blood or fluids on her clothes.

There is no reason for you to abstain from unprotected sex with your wife related to this event and there is no reason for testing .  EWH

[veryworriedanxiety]

Forgot to add and this is my last question. Even if she had blood or fluids on her body or clothes during this event I am completely ok? The room was dim so I would not have noticed clearly.

I can resume unprotected sex without fear of infecting my partner and unborn baby?

This is my only risk encounter so if this event is truly 100 percent risk free I am ok?

I presume I should not even consider testing irrespective of symptons as that is what is freaking me out here?

Thank you so much for your time and comments.

Please understand I am normally a rational person but this has completely done me literally with worry.

[veryworriedanxiety]

Thank you for your reply

Sorry for my questions but to be completely clear you are saying that providing I have not touched her genitals direct and vice versa that there is absolutely no risk with me massaging her even with cuts on my hands and vice versa on her body?

[Edward W Hook, MD]

I feel like I should apologize for the brevity of this answer but the simple fact is that there is no risk whatsoever for HIV from the events you describe. This is true irrespective of whether you or your partner had cuts and irrespective of where the cuts were or when they occurred.  EWH