No where else to turn

[jucie299]

Dear Doctors:

I have no where else to turn for advice regarding this as I live in a very conservative area, where peoples views are heavily influenced by religion - this includes my parents and my doctor.

I am a 19 year old male and engaged in my first sexual contact - which was of the homosexual nature.

My encounter has two parts, one I was able to analyze on my own.  First,  I engaged in mutual masturbation and deep kissing.  The mutual masturbation is similiar to other cases that I read about - I am uncircumsised and he is circumsised.  We rubbed our penises together and he touched my penis with his semen on his hand, thereby putting my penis head/urehtra/and foreskin interior in contact with his semen.  I believe from what I read that this is zero risk.  Correct me if I am wrong.  

HOWEVER, I am worried because he inserted his hands as well into my anus/rectum.  He did this as he had his fluids (ie - semen) on his hands.  I have been unable to find information regarding this on the net with regards to HIV risk.  The only thing I learned is that people call this fisting

Therefore, Drs, I am concerned as to what my HIV risk is, if you believe medically testing is warranted, if anyone has gotten HIV from this sort of exposure, and if I can move on.

Please help!

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Please focus on your OCD, not HIV because you are not at risk  for HIV.  I am aware that he had genital secretions (semen and pre-ejaculate) on his hands.  This does not change my opinion.  No risk!!  EWH

[jucie299]

Sorry doc,

If you could  say something like this this (if you are in agreement with this only), I will never post again and move on:

Yes I realize there was his genital secretions such as pre-semen and semen his hands and he inserted his hands in your anus/rectum.  This doesn't change my opinion.  No risk.  

[jucie299]

After reading my two above posts in addition to this one, if you were to say something like this, I would move on - Yes I realize there was semen and presemen on his hands and he inserted his hands in your anus/rectum.  This doesn't change my opinion.  No risk.

Only say that though doctor, if you believe it.  I'm just concerned if you took into fact that there was semen, presemen, genitcal secretitions on his hands that he inserted in my anus.  

I suffer from OCD and obviously it is being displayed here.
I am on medication, and I will be able to move on if you say something like that to reassure me one last time.  

[jucie299]

Follow up:

It was BOTH semen AND presemen that was on his hands and he inserted his hands in my anus/rectum.  

Do any of my last two posts change your original opinion or advice?

[jucie299]

Thank you Dr. Hook for your advice.  I have one question though.

In the original post I wrote "HOWEVER, I am worried because he inserted his hands as well into my anus/rectum.  He did this as he had his fluids (ie - semen) on his hands".  With regards to the "(ie - semen)" I intended to say that he had semen as his fluids on his hands.  I did not want you to read it as the "-" as a not.  

Did you response to the above answers include the fact that semen was the fluid that was present on my partners hands that he inserted into my anus/rectum?

[Edward W Hook, MD]

For starters, this is an unrealistic situation and not something to worry about.  If you cannot stop worrying, wait until 6 weeks after your event, then get a test.  It will be negative and you can stop worrying.  Still no risk.  I have little more to add.   EWH

[jucie299]

Thank you Dr. Hook for the reply.

What if though there was a cut on his hand that was relatively fresh and it led to blood on his hands and a transfer of his blood into me when he inserted his hand in my anus!

Thank you.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Both of the experiences you describe fall within the category of mutual masturbation.  There is no risk from any part of this exposure.

You do not mention whether or not your partner was HIV infected or not.  In all likelihood he was not.  You should ask him.  EWH

[jucie299]

Sorry doctors, one last final post, I promise.

The whole situation happened in a dark room.  What if there was blood on his hands, say if there was a cut on his hand and it happened in the process.  Would this put me at a risk and change your advice?

[jucie299]

Drs -

I am unsure as well if my partner had any cuts on his hand during this process.  Please acknowledge that you have taken this comment when you formulate your opinion.  

I just want to sleep soundly tonight and I promise - no follow up and what if posts.