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G'day Doc,
I have a serious drinking problem which causes other huge problems! The other night while in Auckland, N.Z. I got really drunk again and somehow found myself in an asian brothel. I only have hazy memory of the goings on but I know I was in there for about 1.5 - 2hrs. During this time I received a hand job with no condom, followed by sex with a condom and I think finished with oral sex without condom. Also while she gave me oral she also penetrated me with her finger using a condom, I know seriously weird but that is the facts. Today 3 days later I noticed a very small wound on my shaft which I suspect was obtained when she bit my penis for some reason so I am freaking out that I am going to get every known STI and HIV and die ! I have the most beuatiful wife and kids and can't help but think I have lost everything as I will have to tell her because I won't be able to have sex with her.This is really tearing me apart, thoughts of suicide keep creeping into my mind. What are my risks ? What can I do ? How early can I get tested ? What tests are available in Australia ? When finished I kind of realise what I had done and freaked out a little. I asked her if she was clean and her Aids status and she said she was clean. If she did have aids what are my chances of contracting it ? How soon will symptoms of other STIs start showing up. What can I do about my wife !
Sorry just blabbing now, but genuinely freaking out !
I have a serious drinking problem which causes other huge problems! The other night while in Auckland, N.Z. I got really drunk again and somehow found myself in an asian brothel. I only have hazy memory of the goings on but I know I was in there for about 1.5 - 2hrs. During this time I received a hand job with no condom, followed by sex with a condom and I think finished with oral sex without condom. Also while she gave me oral she also penetrated me with her finger using a condom, I know seriously weird but that is the facts. Today 3 days later I noticed a very small wound on my shaft which I suspect was obtained when she bit my penis for some reason so I am freaking out that I am going to get every known STI and HIV and die ! I have the most beuatiful wife and kids and can't help but think I have lost everything as I will have to tell her because I won't be able to have sex with her.This is really tearing me apart, thoughts of suicide keep creeping into my mind. What are my risks ? What can I do ? How early can I get tested ? What tests are available in Australia ? When finished I kind of realise what I had done and freaked out a little. I asked her if she was clean and her Aids status and she said she was clean. If she did have aids what are my chances of contracting it ? How soon will symptoms of other STIs start showing up. What can I do about my wife !
Sorry just blabbing now, but genuinely freaking out !
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
joggen's comment is correct.
From a risk assessment perspective, you really don't need testing for HIV or STDs at all. It might be a good idea simply for psychological support, however; and even if you weren't at risk from this particular event, if you have fallen off the sexual wagon before, it would be a good idea to be tested on that account. But if this is your only possible exposure, just like all those other cases, if I were in your position I would continue unprotected sex with my wife.
The SHCs are publicly funded, and you can imagine why they prefer to deal with persons at high risk; they would be swamped if everyone with an extramarital sexual adventure showed up for testing. You should view their "rejection" as reassuring. Nevertheless, I'll bet if you show up as a walk-in patient, they will see you -- especially if, as I suggested above, this isn't your only non-marital sexual encounter.
Or you could indeed visit your GP. That has the advantage of being a good way to simultaneously deal with your important health problems, i.e. the alcohol and your emotional reaction to these events.
You didn't catch HIV. But to answer your question, with proper medical care most people survive 20 years or more.
From a risk assessment perspective, you really don't need testing for HIV or STDs at all. It might be a good idea simply for psychological support, however; and even if you weren't at risk from this particular event, if you have fallen off the sexual wagon before, it would be a good idea to be tested on that account. But if this is your only possible exposure, just like all those other cases, if I were in your position I would continue unprotected sex with my wife.
The SHCs are publicly funded, and you can imagine why they prefer to deal with persons at high risk; they would be swamped if everyone with an extramarital sexual adventure showed up for testing. You should view their "rejection" as reassuring. Nevertheless, I'll bet if you show up as a walk-in patient, they will see you -- especially if, as I suggested above, this isn't your only non-marital sexual encounter.
Or you could indeed visit your GP. That has the advantage of being a good way to simultaneously deal with your important health problems, i.e. the alcohol and your emotional reaction to these events.
You didn't catch HIV. But to answer your question, with proper medical care most people survive 20 years or more.
HIV is not transmitted through biting. You were apparently only exposed to saliva which is not infectious as far as HIV is concerned. There are no proven cases of transmission through oral sex and you won't be the first.
How long do HIV infected people live for these days ?
G'day Doc, thanks for the reply however it hasn't really eased my mind that much.
I am sure the wound on my shaft was from the unprotected oral at the end of the encounter, where she actually bit me quite hard. the wound is small and can only be seen when I am erect. Condoms were used during vaginal sex with lube. I have noted in alot of your other replies that you have stated "even though you obviously can't guarantee anything if it were you ,you wouldn't have a problem having unprotected sex with your wife". As I have been away for several weeks my wife is stamped urgent, and if I start making excuses she will smell a rat. I hope I haven't thrown my life away on a stupid binge drink, I really hate myself and am at an all time low. How soon could I get tested if you think it was necessary ? When will symptoms appear if I have contracted an STI ? I have spoken with the SHC and they said they only deal with high risk encounters and advised me to go to a gp if I was still worried. Thanks for your time doc.
I am sure the wound on my shaft was from the unprotected oral at the end of the encounter, where she actually bit me quite hard. the wound is small and can only be seen when I am erect. Condoms were used during vaginal sex with lube. I have noted in alot of your other replies that you have stated "even though you obviously can't guarantee anything if it were you ,you wouldn't have a problem having unprotected sex with your wife". As I have been away for several weeks my wife is stamped urgent, and if I start making excuses she will smell a rat. I hope I haven't thrown my life away on a stupid binge drink, I really hate myself and am at an all time low. How soon could I get tested if you think it was necessary ? When will symptoms appear if I have contracted an STI ? I have spoken with the SHC and they said they only deal with high risk encounters and advised me to go to a gp if I was still worried. Thanks for your time doc.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Relax. You're not at as high risk of HIV as you assume. First, it is unlikely that your commercial partner had HIV. Despite all the media hype etc, the large majority of sex workers in industrialized countries are not infected. Second, even if she had it, the chance of transmission through unprotected vaginal sex averages once for every 2,000 esposures -- and you apparently used a condom. The sore on your penis may or may not have been present at the time, but it really doesn't make any important difference in risk. Oral sex is virtually no risk, and fingering is definitely zero risk. There is a somewhat higher risk of other STDs, but still quite low given the condom use for vaginal sex.
Apparently you are in Australia, even though your exposure happened in NZ. I happen to know something about STD services in your country. (See my photo on this forum's home page. Recognize the scene?) Australia's sexual health centres comprise perhaps the world's most sophisticated, high quality HIV/STD clinic networks. Visit the nearest one for professional, high quality STD/HIV evaluation. (If you visit the Sydney or Melborne SHC, say hello to my friends there.) Follow their recommendations; you can expect negative test results.
Bottom line: Of course I can't guarantee you aren't infected, but I can state unequivocally that the odds are strongly in your favor. The SHC likely will confirm it.
Finally, please see your personal health care provider and be frank about your alcohol problem. If this incident triggers a cascade of serious measures to deal with it, perhaps in the long run these events will tip your life scale to the positive side.
G'day, Mate. No worries. Stay safe. HHH, MD
Apparently you are in Australia, even though your exposure happened in NZ. I happen to know something about STD services in your country. (See my photo on this forum's home page. Recognize the scene?) Australia's sexual health centres comprise perhaps the world's most sophisticated, high quality HIV/STD clinic networks. Visit the nearest one for professional, high quality STD/HIV evaluation. (If you visit the Sydney or Melborne SHC, say hello to my friends there.) Follow their recommendations; you can expect negative test results.
Bottom line: Of course I can't guarantee you aren't infected, but I can state unequivocally that the odds are strongly in your favor. The SHC likely will confirm it.
Finally, please see your personal health care provider and be frank about your alcohol problem. If this incident triggers a cascade of serious measures to deal with it, perhaps in the long run these events will tip your life scale to the positive side.
G'day, Mate. No worries. Stay safe. HHH, MD
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