HIV is not transmitted by such exposure. Only actual sex.
When can I get a reliable PCR DNA? Sorry to add.
6) Also could the tissue she used to wipe away redness be a biohazard to me as it has her fluid on it?
To clarify #3
I meant... if I my genitals/uretra comes into contact with her fluids after sex by way of hand contact, removal of the condom (draging fluid to the top) or wet bedding is that a risk for my infection (via urethra) or is the only time I am at risk during the actual coitus (assuming unprotected or with broken condom)?
Sorry if I am unclear....
Straight to your questions: 1) No, such transmission is not known to occur. 2) I'm not sure I understand the 'inside/outside' question. But you used a condom, including for oral sex, for goodness' sake. That's all that matters. (Plus the fact that she probably did't have HIV anyway). 3) Low risk, regardless of blood. 4) I never recommend HIV testing after single exposures, especially such low risk ones. Since you are sexually active outside committed, mutually monogamous relationships, you should have an HIV test from time to time, like once a year. Since it's on your mind, if you haven't been tested recently, this would be a good time--but not because of this exposure.
HHH, MD