help scared

[joools]

hi  i had a unprotected sex with a male im female . iv had 4 / 6/an 8 week neg test from doc really worried still .had red flat blotches on tounge last week week nine they spread then went they wernt sore iv had tonsillitus 2 days post exposure and i keep gettin bad heads and feeling nauseaus and also had sore gums and the odd ulsor in mouth reallyb scared having another teast mon 11 weeks post exposure he was white just vaginal sex with him i had not sure if he ejaculated

[Edward W Hook, MD]

This is a new question. I will respond this one time and then this thread is over. If you have more questions you need to re-post, remembering that our rules are that you should only post twice in any six month period.  If the condom broke your exposure was unprotected.  Thus four weeks after your exposure, if your test was going to become positive aboout 85-90% of those that are going to be positive will be.  End of thread.  Any further questions will be deleted.  EWH

[joools]

sorry im bac i got all clear from last exposure but 4 weeks ago i had protected sex and condom split .he pulled out to ejaculate but very scared sum got inside since week 3 since exposure had diareah twice took immodium it stopped and then day after i had aching muscles felt like id been beaten up still feel like it now and 4 days since aches and pains got sore throat these symptoms are rite where ars time frame start so worried .plz help my last test for exposure i wrote to u about i was 3 weeks in on this one wen they tested for last one would anything of been pickedv up thanx

[Edward W Hook, MD]

After making the response above I went and looked at your interaction with Teak.   While Teak often chimes into some of our threads and a typically agree with most of his assessments, in this situation we may disagree.  The fact of the matter is, he is quoting a conservatively crafted, federally approved statement that is meant as a generalization.  When you ask either of us out opinions, you get them in the context of your situation and the history you provide.  That is the difference.  You have to decide who and what you want to believe.  This is not a debate.  EWH

[Edward W Hook, MD]

teak is not a health care provider.  I would suggest you not pay attention to him.  EWH

[joools]

something is really bothering me teak on the other forum tells everyone not to listen to u 2 docs because u cant get a accurate test till 3 months its very worrying who is he its on the med help forum

[Edward W Hook, MD]

That is what I said.  EWH

[joools]

i also have blisters or ulsers on roof of my mouth today really worried would these be a sighn of hiv

[joools]

so u def think i do not need to testv again he did sleep about a bit with no protection im worried that 8 weeks isnt enough .

[Edward W Hook, MD]

The 12 week recommendation is a very conservative approach which is given to cover all possibilities.  On the other hand, my comments are related to your specific situation.  EWH

[joools]

thanx for ur help it was more the blotches on my tounge i was concerned about and the headaches but if ur sure i wont test further i was just wondering why my doc and gum clinic say test at twelve weeks im from uk this is frightening wen they say that thanx for ur help

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Sorry to hear about your sore throat.  It is not related to HIV.  

Your chances of having gotten HIV from this exposure are extraordinarily low.  Here's why:

1,  Chances are, your partner did not have HIV.  Most people do not.
2.  Your chance of getting HIV, if he was infected is less than one in 1000 per exposure.
3.  You have had an HIV test at 8 weeks.  After 8 weeks between 98 and 99% of tests that are going to become positive will have.

When you put all of these facts together, your chances of being infected from the exposure you describe is less than one 100th of 1%.  If you get retested in the future, you will be a little bit, but not much more sure that you are not infected.  If I were you I would take the results I have, forget about your risk of having gotten infected and move on with your life.  I would not get further testing.

Hope this helps.  EWH