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Please advice. I live in united states. I had protected sex with a woman i met online about 8 times over two weekends. first weekend she was menstruating. i was partially under the influence of alcohol but made sure that the condom was intact after every activity.
second weekend(no mensturation) i saw a drop of blood in my finger in the morning around 10 hours ago. it was very small and with a partial scab by night. I fingered her that day. i avoided using that finger for long time, but it was exposed to vaginal fluids
she is in ealry 30's divorced and had a number of boyfriends before most of them long time. I know her for sometime. but not sure of her sleeping habits. Should i be worried that she has HIV and i can catch it. I read through the statitics and learned HIV is not common in United states.
she follows a normal lifestyle and said she does not have a disease but maybe she could be living without knowing it.i should be highly unlucky to get hiv. May be in the odds of 1 in 1000?
i'm feeling very paranoid and not able to concentrate on anything else. I'm not able to wait till 3 months to get it tested.
second weekend(no mensturation) i saw a drop of blood in my finger in the morning around 10 hours ago. it was very small and with a partial scab by night. I fingered her that day. i avoided using that finger for long time, but it was exposed to vaginal fluids
she is in ealry 30's divorced and had a number of boyfriends before most of them long time. I know her for sometime. but not sure of her sleeping habits. Should i be worried that she has HIV and i can catch it. I read through the statitics and learned HIV is not common in United states.
she follows a normal lifestyle and said she does not have a disease but maybe she could be living without knowing it.i should be highly unlucky to get hiv. May be in the odds of 1 in 1000?
i'm feeling very paranoid and not able to concentrate on anything else. I'm not able to wait till 3 months to get it tested.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to our Forum. I hope I can be helpful to you. Your estimate that your risk of getting HIV from the exposures you describe might be 1 in 1000 is far too high. If your partner is not an IV drug user, the likelihood that she has HIV is close to 1 in 10,000 and even if she had HIV, most exposures, even when unprotected do not lead to infection (only 1 in 1000 unprotected sexual exposures leads to infection with HIV). In your case, you state that your vaginal intercourse was condom protected. Condoms are highly effective for HIV prevention and make low risk exposures virtually no risk when used consistently and correctly. Thus, even if your partner was menstruating, there is no meaningful risk of HIV from a condom protected exposure with this partner. Similarly, HIV is not spread through masturbation ("fingering") even when you have a sore on your finger that gets her vaginal secretions in it.
Thus, to summarize, the exposures you describe were with a partner who is not likely to have HIV and were virtually no risk for infection. You really do not need to worry. While some would suggest that there is no reason to even test, I would point out that should you choose to test, a test result at 8 weeks following your last exposure will provide you with definitive information and will, I predict, prove that you did not get HIV.
I hooe you find my comments reassuring. EWH
Thus, to summarize, the exposures you describe were with a partner who is not likely to have HIV and were virtually no risk for infection. You really do not need to worry. While some would suggest that there is no reason to even test, I would point out that should you choose to test, a test result at 8 weeks following your last exposure will provide you with definitive information and will, I predict, prove that you did not get HIV.
I hooe you find my comments reassuring. EWH
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Forgot???
No, receipt of oral sex is not high risk for acquisiton of HIV. There is a small risk of STDs such as non-gonococcal urethritis or gonorrhea but they would likey be symptomatic were you to get them.
EWH
No, receipt of oral sex is not high risk for acquisiton of HIV. There is a small risk of STDs such as non-gonococcal urethritis or gonorrhea but they would likey be symptomatic were you to get them.
EWH
Doc,
Sorry to ask again. I forgot to mention that i had brief oral sex. it was probably for 1-2 minutes but involved kissing and stimulating the the tip of my penis with her mouth. i did not notice any blood or anything. Is this a high risk activity?
Sorry to ask again. I forgot to mention that i had brief oral sex. it was probably for 1-2 minutes but involved kissing and stimulating the the tip of my penis with her mouth. i did not notice any blood or anything. Is this a high risk activity?
Yes your comments are most reassuring. Thanks a lot. I'm glad that i posted a question with my exact situation as i have been going through a lot of mental trauma. Hope i can get the anxiety out of my mind and continue with my life and friendship with the woman.
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