Going Nuts...

[hadams]

I am a 23-year old bisexual male and I recently had an encounter with a male. I know I was negative for HIV before the encounter because I had not had sex with a male or female for a year and I tested negative 2 months before the encounter. I met this guy online and he said he was disease free and planned to stay that way. I asked him when I met him and he said he was negative for HIV and he got tested a month ago and had not had sex for 3 months. He had a few tattoos and he said he had 7 or 8 half siblings. He masturbated me and I did the same for him and then he gave me oral sex. I didnt know what he was doing down there but it seemed like he was putting spitballs on my penis and then taking it into his mouth... He stopped and masturbated me and I ejaculated. Then he wanted to have anal sex and he out a condom on but he couldnt fit his penis in there so we ended up calling it a day.

Overall, I left kind of worried because he gave me oral sex and I have been worried about getting HIV. I went to the doctor and I got tested for HIV 32 days (about 1 month) after possible exposure and it came out negative. They used a small needle to poke my finger and got a drop of blood. He used a clear view HIV 1/2 stat-pak antibody test. It turned out negative, but I am so worried. Is this a reliable and accepted test? Before the woman poked my finger, I asked her if they use clean needles and she said it was for 1 time use only. (it was an STD clinic). The thing that worries me is after a couple of weeks of having this encounter, I started developing cold like symptoms like runny/stuffy nose and sore throat, but I dont know if this has to do with my HIV infection. The guy sitting next to me at work did have a cold, so I may have caught a cold from him. I really don't know. Given that my HIV test came out negative 1 month after potential exposure, should I get re-tested?
Thank you for your time. I truly appreciate it.

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Obviously the HIV risk here is zero for all practical purposes.  You were reassured by your partner that he doesn't have HIV, and really could not have it, unless he is lying through is teeth about his testing history.  And you had expousres that carry no measruable risk of HIV transmission; certainly masturbation carries no risk at all, and people debate about whether receiving oral sex ever transmits HIV. If it does, the average risk has been calculate at 1 in 20,000, which is equivalent to a BJ once a day by a known-infected partner for 50+ years before transmission occurs. And on top of that, you had a negative test more than a month later; and nobody ever gets HIV because of inappropriate needle use, at least not in the US or other industrialized countries.

Could you possibly be infected despite all this?  Sure.  Could you get hit by a meteorite?

No follow-up comments or questions, please.  There is no information you can possibly provide that would change my opinion or advice.  You don't have it.  Move on.

HHH, MD

[jenkinjimmy]

hadams, you don't have HIV due to this encounter. He had the condom on when he tried. Relax and try to calm down, you cannot get HIV from oral or masturbation.

[ExtremeStress]

From the risk you described oral only (no penetration, with condom, is no risk), you had a low/no risk. you have taken all the necessary precautions. If you are going to be worried over thses type of events maybe you should reevaluate your lifestyle/protection practices. If a blow job without a condom causes you fear, than you need to wear a condom while getting a blow job. No need for this type of stress in your life.