scared of HIV transmission

[Egoseeker]

Hi,
I was at a strip club in Houston a month ago and i had a lap dance, but i put my finger into her Vagina(She wouldn't let me at first), and i think i had a little scratch on that finger before i went to the club by 4 hours (i'm sure it wasn't a deep one), after 4 days of the incident i had sex with my wife but i didn't cum inside then after that by 12 days i had sex with my wife again, this time she got a flu from my daughter but she was getting slightly better and this time also was with protection and i did cum inside the condom my pennis slipped out of the condom when we finished.After 2 days, my wife went out and then came back home with a fever (39.5celsius), and had a sore throat, we went to the doctor and he said that she had also something in her chest (lungs).

So my questions are:
1) Could i've Possibly got infected with HIV? (Just to be aware that i don't have any symptoms like Rash or anything except for some headaches becaus i smoke alot and also i htink because of thinking alot about this)

2) Could my wife have possibly got HIV from me if by any chance i got infected already?

3) actually i don't know if you can answer my 3rd question or not but because you're aware of this medical and health issues and requlations maybe you can so here it is : Isn't there a law that oblige  striipers to be STD tested and HIV tested to work at a Strip Club? (I'm talikng about Fancy and Respectable strip clubs)

Thanks in advance for your kind help,
Egoseeker

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Just as for HIV, you cannot catch any STD of any kind from the kind of event you describe aboved.  I have no further comments.

This thread is over.

[Egoseeker]

Hi Dr HHH,
I just wanted to thank you for your help and don't think i'm insane please but i had
HIV1 DNA, Qualitative  PCR test (The 28 days test after exposure) and the results was:
                                        
                                          In Range            Out of Range                                          

HIV1 DNZ, Qualitative  PCR: Not Detected
Reference Range: Not Detected

So it was negative, and i'm fine, so thanks again for your kind answers and please be aware that i've never had any single doubt about your reply but i was just being paranoid and i couldn't sleep for 6 weeks so i had to take the test and now i'm a bit worried about contracting any STD other than HIV from that incident.

Thanks again & Dearest Regards,
Egoseeker.

[Egoseeker]

thanks so much for your reply and i did concentrate, i was just trying to make sure because there are many sayings online that someone can have HIV causing symptoms from 4-15 days from the day of infection.

Thanks again, and my apolgies for making you feel that i'm talking you out of it.

Thanks & Regards,
Egoseeker

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

1) Nobody has ever been known to catch HIV by fingering, and almost everyone has minor nicks and cuts on their fingers from time to time.  Logic says there have been millions and millions of exposures like you describe, but nobody got HIV.  You aren't going to be the first.

2,3) Window period or not, you cannot transmit something you don't have.

We don't expect much of questioners, but we do expect them to read and pay attention to our replies.  Read all of it and concentrate, including the information about a) the low chance the stripper had HIV and b) the impossibility of HIV causing symptoms this soon in your wife.

You came here for reassurance.  I'm trying to give it to you.  Why are you trying to talk me out of it?

[Egoseeker]

Thanks for your fast reply DR. H
But i have more questions if i may ask :

1) isn't possible to get HIV from fingering with having broken skin? (as i mentioned before, i had a very minor scratch, i can say it was surface scratch)

2)Isn't possible to transmit HIV during the Open window period which is 3 months period?

3)isn't is possible for my wife to get HIV from me if my peenis slipped out of the condom and the condom was left inside her  if i've already got infected?

Sorry to bother you again with my questions but i'm really worried and thanks again in advance for your kind answers

Regards,
Egoseeker  

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Welcome to the HIV forum.  Thanks for the thanks in advance.  Your question happened to arrive as I was online.

Reacting first to the opening line ("I was at a strip club"):  Safe sex isn't complicated.  HIV is only transmitted sexually by actual intercourse, i.e. a bare (no condom) penis inside someone's vagina, rectum, or mouth.  If that happened at the strip club, you might be at risk for HIV.  Otherwise, you are not at risk, no matter what the rest of your message says.

OK, now I have read the rest.  Guess what?  You can't get HIV from a lap dance or fingering, even if the stripper had HIV; and the odds are very strong that she did not.  Your wife's symptoms suggest she caught a cold or the flu.  (Maybe she even has the H1N1 virus, which as you know from the news stories is present in all communities.)  In any case, even if you had been exposed to HIV, there is no way you could have transmitted it to your wife already and that HIV could cause fever or anything else this soon.

To the specific questions:

1) HIV is not possible, unless you or your wife have had other sexual misadventures that you haven't mentioned.

2) No, that's not possible.

3) There are no laws anywhere in the US that require strippers, commercial sex workers, or anyone else to be tested for STDs and HIV.  Some employers of CSWs might require testing -- for example most legal brothels in Las Vegas.  But no legal requirements.

Bottom line:  No HIV risk whatsoever and it is not possible that your wife's illness is HIV from your strip club eperiences.

Regards--  HHH, MD