sorry to intrude but one single qestion is fingering with hiv lady is safe
Your exposure is zero risk. Despite the fact that your partner may (or may not) have been as somewhat higher risk for having HIV or another STD, there is no risk to you. French kissing is no risk. Similarly, you did not penetrate her in any way and your exposure to her secretions was minimal. Her only contact with your anus and your genitals were her hands. Thus this exposure is within the realm of masturbation which is safe sex. No risk to you for acquisition of HIV or any other STD. Please realize that in the course of masturbation miniscule amounts of genital secretions are inadvertently shared between partners, nonetheless there are no HIV transmissions which have occurred in this way. This was safe sex and you do not need to be concerned, nor do you need testing for this exposure.
The rash that you have now noticed is certainly not a manifestation of HIV, other STD, or anything else you caught during the activities you have described. it is likely due to some other, completely unrelated cause.
To repeat. Zero risk with no need for concern or testing. Take care. EWH