Only a brief response to your long question, which has obvious, common-sense answers: You describe someone who gives a reassuring story about not having HIV. I cannot tell whether she was lying or not, but even if she was--that is if she had HIV--the chance of getting it from a single episode of unprotected sex averates 1 in 2,000. That means you could have sex with an HIV infected woman every day and not expect to get HIV yourself for 5 years.
You don't need to wait 6 months for reliable HIV testing. 6 weeks is plenty of time. Your questions about symptoms don't matter: symptoms never are a reliable indicator of new HIV infection, and lack of symptoms doesn't mean you weren't infected either. Just have a test 6 weeks after the event, and don't worry about it in the meantime. (I actually don't recommend testing at all, except that you obviously need it for anxiety relief. The situation itself wasn't high enough risk to need testing.)
Good luck-- HHH, MD
As always, thanks for your support. But no need to carry on. He is going to get a warning, after which further inapprorpiate comments will indeed get him banned from participation on any MedHelp forum.
I deleted your comment. This forum is limtied to civil discourse without personal attacks, whether on me or any other forum user. One more such post will get you banned from all future comments on the MedHelp forums.
But for more on the topic of the more reasonable elements of you message, take a look at my comment today in another thread:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/hiv/messages/1026.html
Username "notdumb" has been inappropriately appending comments that were inappropriate both in content and because they were jumping your thread. I have been deleting his comments, which makes some of the remaining ones seem out of place.
In response to your follow-up question, the definition of "high risk" and "low risk" sexual practices is not hard and fast. If your partner had HIV infection, the statistical risk you caught HIV would have been 1 chance in 2,000. That's high risk by some standards; it is high enough to make HIV a heterosexually transmitted epidemic in some populations. Still, it means that the chance of catching HIV was pretty low. Further, my original reply was based not just on the risk of the sexual event itself, but also on the likelihood your partner was infected. Since that risk was low, your overall risk was miniscule.
I deleted the comments by "notdumb" not only because s/he disagreed with this sort of advice (s/he seems to believe that sexual safety messages should be all or none, rather than truthfully based on people's actual risks) but because s/he made those charges in an offensive, personal fashion, and without respect for scientific evidence.
Thanks for your understanding. Sorry for any confusion.
HHH, MD
im not sure what you guys are doing but this was my question.thanks again doctor for your time.
i agree i do need to test for anxiety relief...if unprotected vaginal isnt a high risk and im not sure exactly why?can you tell me what is so i can always remember?thanks dr hhh for your time.