For Crying Out Loud

[fjohn]

Something that I never read of that has great therapeutic value, is crying. Especially for anxiety. I feel profound relief and catharsis when I really sob, I mean the kind you feel down to the bottom of your toes. I know grown men aren't supposed to cry but this one does and I can't tell you how priceless this has been for me. I hope you haven't forgotten how.

[sherma]

Yes I agree - a good old cry does help.  I have been doing a lot of that over the last few days as my PVC's have come back with a vengeance (sp).  I was coping OK up until Wednesday or Thursday of last week with just the odd one or two, but now they are back in the hundreds/thousands again, and I feel so black and depressed.  I am trying so hard to come to terms with them and the way that they have altered my life.  My husband has no care - but I worry about my 4 year old.  I feel terrible - I have quinsy coming on again so my pulse is up with the fever, and all I want to do is cry and cry.  Why won't they go away.  I came to terms with health condition before, but this is my heart and it's so frightening.

I have to choose whether to sink or swim, at the moment I am sinking - and yes crying as well.  Sorry.

Be well,

Debs

[fjohn]

You are going to be just fine. Please do not ask the Why question because thats where anxiety lives plus its a waste of time. What is a much better question so I will ask you, what do you have to do today, just today, that will make things better for you. Can you take a warm bath? Can your husband take you somewhere today where you like to go? Your life changes and we adapt...what has not changed that you cherish?
Can you get some help, today, by making an appointment with a therapist? I am one and we are pretty helpful and are good listeners.
Can you smile and laugh? Today?
You are going to be just fine, Today.

[CollegeGirl143]

crying does help, both from a mental, and physiological stand point.. Have you ever noticed after a GOOD cry, you want to go to sleep? Alot of people do because the act of crying releases substances into your body that will help relax and calm you... From a mental standpoint, it gives you the feeling of release... Alot of people who are in the midst of an axiety attack wont cry.. They are trying too hard to stay in control, and the anxiety is the only thing on their mind.. If one can let go, and maybe cry a little, it could possibly make you feel much better :)

[fjohn]

Yes,Yes. I notice when I cry that it is a letting go process and all that stuff that I am trying to control due to anxiety, is washed away with tears. Its like a sedative without the side effects.
Am reading a good book called "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. I got the book because I noticed that on bad days, my thoughts either centered on the past, which made me feel stuck or guilty, or, on the future, which overwhelmed me. Now is the only place where I belong.
I am getting a cardioversion tomorrow afternoon. I am nervous and very positive.

[CollegeGirl143]

GOOD LUCK!!! Please let us know how the cardioversion goes