Relationships and Telling

[Views3]

Hello, just out of curiosity, has your diagnosis of hep c or even hep b affected your dating life? How have you told potential partners? I'm currently getting tested after a work exposure and preparing for anything that comes my way when I get results. This portion of it boggled my mind. What's your story? When did you find out you were positive?

[James10500]

Not at all she still won't leave........hahaha.

[Mary4now]

good luck with the dating,,,,, if I could do it all over again and know what I know now, i definitely would have dated differently,   wow,  somehow to be less concerned with that and more concerned about understanding yourself,  point yourself in the right direction, do for others  and you will meet someone who really cares.  

[Liz50]

I just happend over here because I hit the wrong "favorites" key and hey, people are talking about me/us.
@spectda--yeah, he owes me like a million dates. Keep telling him!
@blondie 717--we are still married becasue we are too lazy to split up..besides, I love the guy, and the fact he's only in town about 1/4 of the time keeps the mystery alive. (The mystery is how we ever got together in the first place. If you saw us together, you'd laugh--Walrus is 6'5" and I am 5'2" on a good day.) We are a very weird couple but we made great kids and have weathered a few trials together....
So, babe, I am keeping busy, you should call sometime...and yeah, sure you'll be home after the meeting--just please be home for Christmas to see the nice gifts you bought me! We;ll have a new grandson by then...

[spectda]

Glad to hear you will get some time off soon!
Happy Holidays to you and your family,
Dave

[IAmTheWalrus]

Dave,

I have to be in the state to do that. I haven't even been able to be in the Country for the last month! I am seriously an abused employee! :-)

I plan on a long leisurely Christmas vacation that lasts well into the new year.

To my wife: if you are listening, I'll be coming straight home after the meeting (trip).

Keep yer stick on the ice!

Brent

[spectda]

for god sakes take the little woman on a date. She deserves at least that for putting up with the fishy stink for all the years. And make sure you tell before pursuing any gymnastics!

[blondie717]

& Iamthewalrus....aawwwww, how sweet,an unknown love story unwraps before our eyes. Tis heartwarming to know there is the happily ever after!

[Views3]

Thanks Liz50 :)

This is very reassuring...
Although I am pretty knowledgeable about the spread of HCV it is difficult to know if others have inaccurate information on how it's spread. It's good to know that people just move on and continue on with their normal lives. :)

[Liz50]

You aren't dating anyone, to my knowledge, not even your wife.  Quit the nonstop traveling, come home sometime and let's go on a date!
Liz (Walrus' "date" for the last 35 years!)

Seriously--when Walrus was dxed, he was sick with the thought he may have infected me or one of our 5 kids. Of course, I was tested immediately, but even tho I'd snuck his razor (bad, bad wifey) and occasionally his toothbrush, I did not and have not contracted HCV.  

[IAmTheWalrus]

My HCV has not affected my dating life at all, but my wife and kids would take a dim view of any activity of this kind! :-)

[Views3]

All of you, thank you for your diverse perspectives :)  I am already ultra careful involving the heart and sex (along with testing FOR SURE) ya never know really. Good advice, good advice....knowledge is power :)

[Diane12855]

A lot of us found out after we had been infected for 20+ years and we were already married so we never had to deal with telling someone we were dating.

I don't think I'd tell unless it looked like things were getting serious and then I'd make sure I had the facts about hep c printed out because there are lots of misconceptions out there.

Diane

[blondie717]

I have told people I have it. And that was not a factor of weather we did or did not doo ittt... However I am in tx and dont want or need any other goodies... my brother was concieved because a condom broke (may he rest in peace). So now I find myself saying., go to the doctors, get tested for std's, hiv, hep B, Hep C (geno's)...I tell them bring labs and condoms. And then well think about it... Now I am alone, that is tooo much trouble for a man. lol.  I asked my study cordinator if she thought that was mean..she dont think so....lol

[Views3]

Of course I agree with you babs824 :) It seems that so far, no one has had an issue with telling I suppose. I just feel like some guys would feel it to be a burden on them, but then again no men understand anything under the age of 25...believe me. ;)

[babs824]

altho it is not sexually passed i feel that if u trust a person enuf to be intimate that you should tell them. i am an old fogie, however and i did not follow my advice at your age!!! (or any other sensible advice for that matter)

[Views3]

Yeah I understand that hep C is not an STD. (Hep B yes I know  it is sexually trans) A few people would probably be a little put off by hep C though I'm sure : / I'm fairly young, and in my 20s, so the concern in there in terms of telling a significant other. It's only fair to them as far as my conscious is concerned. Very unlikely transmitted sexually, but the risk is still there. nygirl7, do you have any particular ways that you were able to bring up your status?

[Marcia2202]

Well, I guess it is another story with hep b, as it is sexually transmittable. But I guess it wouldn't matter if the partner has had the hep b vaccine. But then again, I'm not too versed on hep b.

Hep C on the other hand isn't an STD, as nygirl said.

[nygirl7]

I wouldn't worry about it until you find out you have it. I found in my past relationships it didn't make any difference anyway - I was fortunate and the men I dated were educated and didn't think it was an STD or anything so they were not concerned about being infected themselves.