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Is foot in mouth a side effect?
Yesterday, I did it again, twice. One of my kids phones. They want sympathy and instead I make some wisecrack and burst out laughing and can't stop and by then my foot is firmly entrenched into my mouth. I know if they talk to me on certain days of the week, I am closer to being clear minded. My kids think I'm making excuses. I'm convinced its tx related.
I've also laughed a few times at things that the other person didn't fully appreciate. I have a friend who's looking for a job. His current job is stressing him out so much he had a seizure at work. He tells me in his latest interview he was getting hammered in a technical interview and he said 'I just wanted out of the room, I didn't know what to say or do.' I told him he should have gone into a seizure and fell on the floor flopping around. I laughed quite hard for a good minute to silence on the other end of the phone followed by an 'anyway'.
"My niece would give you the shirt off her back--and then steal it from you later."
LB,
You REALLY have a way with words!
"some kids just don't turn out well no matter how much you love them or try to get thru to them.!"
Yep. I'm not a parent but had 8 brothers and sisters and after seeing thousands of kids and watching some of them from K to 8th grade (when I spent ten years in one school) I can tell you UNEQUIVOCALLY that there IS such a thing as a BAD SEED.
"And sfgirl, your step-daughter sounds really really like a sociopath."
I concur.
"No remorse no conscience and it's always some one elses fault."
At some point they (the kid) has to take responsibility for their actions.
Maybe that's the problem. For some reason, the law that every action causes an equal RE-action is not taught or modeled or even acknowledged anywhere - not in the media, not int the home, not in the schools - it's terrifying.
I've seen adults blackmailed and fired by kids who at the age of 7 up know the system inside out and know how to milk it.
Right before I went on leave for TX, the PE teacher in my school was up on DYFS charges because a couple of fifth grade boys had decided it would be a lot of fun to make MR. D lose his job.
They nearly succeeded.
It took the poor guy six months to straighten it out, and he's lucky he was able to.
"I sound like a sociopath myself, Huh? ranting and raving!"
Me too. *LOL*
LB,
You REALLY have a way with words!
"some kids just don't turn out well no matter how much you love them or try to get thru to them.!"
Yep. I'm not a parent but had 8 brothers and sisters and after seeing thousands of kids and watching some of them from K to 8th grade (when I spent ten years in one school) I can tell you UNEQUIVOCALLY that there IS such a thing as a BAD SEED.
"And sfgirl, your step-daughter sounds really really like a sociopath."
I concur.
"No remorse no conscience and it's always some one elses fault."
At some point they (the kid) has to take responsibility for their actions.
Maybe that's the problem. For some reason, the law that every action causes an equal RE-action is not taught or modeled or even acknowledged anywhere - not in the media, not int the home, not in the schools - it's terrifying.
I've seen adults blackmailed and fired by kids who at the age of 7 up know the system inside out and know how to milk it.
Right before I went on leave for TX, the PE teacher in my school was up on DYFS charges because a couple of fifth grade boys had decided it would be a lot of fun to make MR. D lose his job.
They nearly succeeded.
It took the poor guy six months to straighten it out, and he's lucky he was able to.
"I sound like a sociopath myself, Huh? ranting and raving!"
Me too. *LOL*
Cindy you have a good heart, but there really are teens who are chemically imbalanced and love and understanding does not change them. My niece would give you the shirt off her back--and then steal it from you later. I had her visit every summer for years, our family vacations always included my nieces. Her father died of cirrohsis, and hep c in '98. My sister had been raising her for 4 years because of his health problems. After going thru hell and back and having tons of marital problems she finally said enough and sent her to live with her mom. This girl would stay out all weekend, lie skip school etc.
Her mom had her 4 months and after she slapped her mom, stole a car and travelled across a few states before getting caught, my niece was sent to Texas because I know all about raising kids. Ha! We saw 2 different counselors. I had to be at her school every week because of some teacher who was ready to kick her out of class, or down at the police station to bail her out from shoplifting. My kids would wait after school to give her a ride home and she would blow them off while they sat waiting in a parking lot for her. She ran away 3 months before she turned 18. When she came back to get her stuff, my husband and I begged her to reconsider, but she left. When she was 20 and pregnant I was at the hospital with her. I have given her money, paid her rent, given her furniture and haven't seen her in 10 months.
Her mom had her 4 months and after she slapped her mom, stole a car and travelled across a few states before getting caught, my niece was sent to Texas because I know all about raising kids. Ha! We saw 2 different counselors. I had to be at her school every week because of some teacher who was ready to kick her out of class, or down at the police station to bail her out from shoplifting. My kids would wait after school to give her a ride home and she would blow them off while they sat waiting in a parking lot for her. She ran away 3 months before she turned 18. When she came back to get her stuff, my husband and I begged her to reconsider, but she left. When she was 20 and pregnant I was at the hospital with her. I have given her money, paid her rent, given her furniture and haven't seen her in 10 months.
Sorry to go off, it's just that after talking to other people I have found out that some kids just don't turn out well no matter how much you love them or try to get thru to them. I love my niece and invite her over all the time. She lives here in Texas still, a few miles away, but I never see her. I know she had a messed up life way before I got her but I tried and she doesn't want or need my love. And sfgirl, your step-daughter sounds really really like a sociopath. No remorse no conscience and it's always some one elses fault.
I sound like a sociopath myself, Huh? ranting and raving!
Maybe some day they will change, and as for my niece, I'll always love her unconditionally, maybe she needs more than love though.
I sound like a sociopath myself, Huh? ranting and raving!
Maybe some day they will change, and as for my niece, I'll always love her unconditionally, maybe she needs more than love though.
I just barely survived that six weeks and swore I'd never again work with anyone taller than me (I'm 5'4). (that's after getting threatend with being shot - punched in the eyes, tripped , etc. sort of like what SFG is going through times several hundred).
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That had to be beyond stressful to face everyday.
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That had to be beyond stressful to face everyday.
You always make me smile. I felt bad for going on and on about kids, but I seem to be in a mood today.
Did you understand what I meant when I said 'do the drapes match the rug?'
I seem to be losing a lot of hair that normally would require a bikini wax. I'm glad to see it go, but I wonder if it's just temporary.
Hugs,
Bug
Did you understand what I meant when I said 'do the drapes match the rug?'
I seem to be losing a lot of hair that normally would require a bikini wax. I'm glad to see it go, but I wonder if it's just temporary.
Hugs,
Bug
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