Aa
am I crazy
I am going to drive 5 hrs this Friday tx night, to Moyock NC to meet Carol a woman I met on myspace and after talking to daily have decided we are love with the person we've been communicating with. She knows I am on tx, and my situation with sx and such. She has worked in the medical field a lot of her life is presently the main tech for an orthopedic surgeon. She has invited me up to stay in a 8 bedroom resort house at Sand Bridge Beach in Virginia. Her nephew is getting married that weekend and I am invited to that, to meet her family, 3 daughters and enjoy the beach with her and get to know each other.
We both have really worked this over in our minds and so forth. She doesn't want it to be awkward and wants us to really fall in love, not just love each other, but the whole nine yards. I have always felt we were soulmates.
We will be together not in the same room from Friday until Monday. My concerns are besides the obvious is my sx during tx, also my essential tremors rear their ugly head at a moments notice moreso through tx.
I just want to make her feel good and it was worth it and go from there.
The most I have driven since being on tx is about 45 minutes. I have never driven to Moyock NC, which is near Elizabeth City. I hope there are a lot of pitstops on the way.
I really don't want to cause her any unhappiness, or pain. I don't want to kill myself doing this also. I guess if truelove is afoot we'll get through this, I guess I was thinking when we planned this that I would be well into tx and not experiencing these sx.
Anyway, am I crazy, It is a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart.
Peace and health
This the first time I have attempted anything like this really in my life and going through tx.
I have fears and try to give them to faith, I guess the main one is what if we don't click, then I drive home. What if I am sick from tx, she said that I may have to sleep on a couch so i am not sure that I'll have my own room. I am thinking about the using the bathroom 8 times a night, excluding diarrhea.
We both have really worked this over in our minds and so forth. She doesn't want it to be awkward and wants us to really fall in love, not just love each other, but the whole nine yards. I have always felt we were soulmates.
We will be together not in the same room from Friday until Monday. My concerns are besides the obvious is my sx during tx, also my essential tremors rear their ugly head at a moments notice moreso through tx.
I just want to make her feel good and it was worth it and go from there.
The most I have driven since being on tx is about 45 minutes. I have never driven to Moyock NC, which is near Elizabeth City. I hope there are a lot of pitstops on the way.
I really don't want to cause her any unhappiness, or pain. I don't want to kill myself doing this also. I guess if truelove is afoot we'll get through this, I guess I was thinking when we planned this that I would be well into tx and not experiencing these sx.
Anyway, am I crazy, It is a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart.
Peace and health
This the first time I have attempted anything like this really in my life and going through tx.
I have fears and try to give them to faith, I guess the main one is what if we don't click, then I drive home. What if I am sick from tx, she said that I may have to sleep on a couch so i am not sure that I'll have my own room. I am thinking about the using the bathroom 8 times a night, excluding diarrhea.
Be sure you give someone the address incase you end up in a basement converted into a Torture Chamber.
You are so right to say what you do, and I am grateful, Carol realizes that my health comes first, it is my choice. She has 3 daughters the youngest one in curls, no that's 23, she is getting married next year. Carol is a recovering addict, very spiritual and kind.
We were going to do this September 13th, during a benefit for Sids, her grandaughter died suddenly at 31/2 months.
I myself have not had a vacation since a 19 day stay at rehab, over a year and a half ago.
I mentioned to her that I could hear her family and friends saying after I left Who was that friend of Carol's that when he wasn't sleeping he was in the bathroom all the time.
The place we found out has 81/2 bathrooms. It is not ordained that I spend any time at any function with any family or friends, except of course Carol.
This is supposed to be relaxing, and yes the drive down there and back doesn't bode well for that scenario, Relaxation is the name of the game the rest of the time.
This is sort of closure for us. we have been talking for hours for several months. If it is not to be, and I pray that it will be, then we can stay friends and move on.
I enjoy bluntness, it takes away the political correctness.
I do take everything you say to heart and I haven't left yet, if I get feeling bad I won't go.
Thanks
Peace and Health
We were going to do this September 13th, during a benefit for Sids, her grandaughter died suddenly at 31/2 months.
I myself have not had a vacation since a 19 day stay at rehab, over a year and a half ago.
I mentioned to her that I could hear her family and friends saying after I left Who was that friend of Carol's that when he wasn't sleeping he was in the bathroom all the time.
The place we found out has 81/2 bathrooms. It is not ordained that I spend any time at any function with any family or friends, except of course Carol.
This is supposed to be relaxing, and yes the drive down there and back doesn't bode well for that scenario, Relaxation is the name of the game the rest of the time.
This is sort of closure for us. we have been talking for hours for several months. If it is not to be, and I pray that it will be, then we can stay friends and move on.
I enjoy bluntness, it takes away the political correctness.
I do take everything you say to heart and I haven't left yet, if I get feeling bad I won't go.
Thanks
Peace and Health
You couldn't have said it better and at least some of us here were unable to be as blunt as we would have liked. Thanks.
I have to say this ... what I don't get is .. if Carol has worked for doctors and top ones at that ... then she has some understanding of the impact of medicine, fatigue and stress. And yet...she's all for you not only driving five hours, but then attending a wedding, meeting her family and her children.....and frankly, I would NEVER introduce someone to my children that I had never met in person myself no matter how great they seemed over the phone and no matter how old my children are. What I don't get is why Carol, for YOUR sake, doesn't suggest that there is a better weekend for YOU that you can both meet and meet you halfway sometime and share the driving so that it's not you stressing your health to the max to drive to where SHE is for what? Is it that important that you be there THIS weekend? Seems you can both do this under better circumstances and with less impact on you. You're taking the full brunt of this and YOU are the one on treatment. You're the one driving, meeting HER family .. and she's the one with experience in the medical field. Something doesn't add up here at all .. in fact not much of this adds up at all.
If I were you ... I'd pull out and plan to meet under better circumstances and more responsible ones all around. I'd meet HER first before meeting her children. I don't think I'd ever meet a guy's kids without first meeting him.
But mostly....I don't get why she is asking you to do this in the first place....seems a real lack of understanding of what she's asking of YOU to pull ALL of this off.
You can do this under better circumstances, you know. And more responsible ones to all concerned.
That's kinda blunt .. but was just thinking about you and just had to say it.
Trish
If I were you ... I'd pull out and plan to meet under better circumstances and more responsible ones all around. I'd meet HER first before meeting her children. I don't think I'd ever meet a guy's kids without first meeting him.
But mostly....I don't get why she is asking you to do this in the first place....seems a real lack of understanding of what she's asking of YOU to pull ALL of this off.
You can do this under better circumstances, you know. And more responsible ones to all concerned.
That's kinda blunt .. but was just thinking about you and just had to say it.
Trish
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