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smoking addiction
My husband had quit cigarettes for 3 months. I thought he had quit for good, but guess what?? I found a cigarette lighter on the bed under the sheets when I got in bed the other night. I was upset that he didn't tell me, but he thought NOT telling me would be better cause I guess he figured I would never find out being he has enough control not to smoke around me in the house. He didn't want to upset me by telling me he went back to smoking, but I told him that by lying to me and saying he quit is more upsetting than hearing he is still smoking.
His parents both had cancer - mouth/ throat and both due to smoking. His father died from it and thank God his mother was cured. So thats why for the last 20 years I have been hoping he would quit and up until now, I thought he did.
Did anyone have a real hard time giving up cigarettes and knew that they needed extra help. If you did get extra help, and were able to quit, how did you do it? He'll try anything but hypnosis. He even thinks he needs to talk to a psychiatrist cause he just can't believe how he keeps going back to it - even after 3 months of not smoking. He thinks he has a harder time than anyone and I can't convince him that all ex-smokers had a hard time and you just have to resist.
I had given it up years ago on my own without using anything, so I am unable to suggest anything to him.
Any suggestions or maybe someone has gone through the same thing and took some pill or something. I remember reading a while back that there is a pill to help a person stop smoking but I forgot the name of it and I don't know if it has sx. I am upset that he lied to me, but I won't harp on that because he thought he was protecting me from added stress - thats how different men are from women,,,I would have wanted to know and hear the truth so I could help him.
well if you have any ideas please let me know. Thanks, MO
His parents both had cancer - mouth/ throat and both due to smoking. His father died from it and thank God his mother was cured. So thats why for the last 20 years I have been hoping he would quit and up until now, I thought he did.
Did anyone have a real hard time giving up cigarettes and knew that they needed extra help. If you did get extra help, and were able to quit, how did you do it? He'll try anything but hypnosis. He even thinks he needs to talk to a psychiatrist cause he just can't believe how he keeps going back to it - even after 3 months of not smoking. He thinks he has a harder time than anyone and I can't convince him that all ex-smokers had a hard time and you just have to resist.
I had given it up years ago on my own without using anything, so I am unable to suggest anything to him.
Any suggestions or maybe someone has gone through the same thing and took some pill or something. I remember reading a while back that there is a pill to help a person stop smoking but I forgot the name of it and I don't know if it has sx. I am upset that he lied to me, but I won't harp on that because he thought he was protecting me from added stress - thats how different men are from women,,,I would have wanted to know and hear the truth so I could help him.
well if you have any ideas please let me know. Thanks, MO
Bug - you're my mentor!!! Words of encouragement are welcome and appreciated! lol. The wife is pretty motivated and seems to be proud of me ... so let's say that boosted my ego a few knotches :0)... I like being on her good side. Actually started smoking after I started dating her and she's always felt a little guilty about that - she shouldn't. I was older (clearing throat) and more experienced in life afterall ;) We all make our choices. Like now, we're going to kick this. Congrats... to you - we'll do it, won't we?
jmjm530 - There is more to it then the kit, there's courses as you mentioned- I just need to look at it more. She has. She doesn't want to be left behind on this. Anyway, appreciate it. One of the reasons in waiting on treatment other than the hep dr says I shouldn't be in a hurry, we've decided to get pregnant and I've said Let's wait 'til we kick smoking. A good motivation, I'd say.
jmjm530 - There is more to it then the kit, there's courses as you mentioned- I just need to look at it more. She has. She doesn't want to be left behind on this. Anyway, appreciate it. One of the reasons in waiting on treatment other than the hep dr says I shouldn't be in a hurry, we've decided to get pregnant and I've said Let's wait 'til we kick smoking. A good motivation, I'd say.
I like your wife's motivation! Really, it was something I thought about a lot too. I can always recognize an ex-smoker by the voice, the decreased lung power, (always more difficult for smokers to build up endurance as they're battling shortness of breath)
and the tell tale wrinkles on the face, especially the mouth.
And if smoking can make the outside deterioate, imagine what the inside looks like!
Hey, I'm really beginning to sound like an ex-smoker! Nothing worse than a convert to a new philosophy. I'm starting to preach about the things I already knew when I smoked:)
Have a great week, good luck to both of you.
Bug
and the tell tale wrinkles on the face, especially the mouth.
And if smoking can make the outside deterioate, imagine what the inside looks like!
Hey, I'm really beginning to sound like an ex-smoker! Nothing worse than a convert to a new philosophy. I'm starting to preach about the things I already knew when I smoked:)
Have a great week, good luck to both of you.
Bug
Jacob: Getting the kit for the wife.
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I guess Smoke Enders has changed some from back in the day. Twenty or so years ago, it was a weekly course of around ten weeks if I remember correctly. There were about 20 in my class plus a leader. If they still offer this option, I highly recommend it for the group interraction, and that's not coming from someone very big on these group meeting things. If they don't, hopefully the kit consolidates some of the core ideas covered in the course I took.
Congratulations yourself on being clean for a week! If you can make it clean for six weeks you'll be significantly free from the physical addition (actually you'll be mostly there in another week or 2) but remember, it's the psychological addition that brings most back so don't get complacent and start patting yourself on the back. Always be vigilant and never take "just one" because that surely will bring you back 100% -- maybe not that day, but soon enough. I have a feeling you have the motivation to make it work yourself, but if not, follow your wife's example and try the "The Kit".
Brave couple, both stopping at the same time, but hopefully it means you both will be able to support and understand what the other is going through.
-- Jim
-- Jim
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I guess Smoke Enders has changed some from back in the day. Twenty or so years ago, it was a weekly course of around ten weeks if I remember correctly. There were about 20 in my class plus a leader. If they still offer this option, I highly recommend it for the group interraction, and that's not coming from someone very big on these group meeting things. If they don't, hopefully the kit consolidates some of the core ideas covered in the course I took.
Congratulations yourself on being clean for a week! If you can make it clean for six weeks you'll be significantly free from the physical addition (actually you'll be mostly there in another week or 2) but remember, it's the psychological addition that brings most back so don't get complacent and start patting yourself on the back. Always be vigilant and never take "just one" because that surely will bring you back 100% -- maybe not that day, but soon enough. I have a feeling you have the motivation to make it work yourself, but if not, follow your wife's example and try the "The Kit".
Brave couple, both stopping at the same time, but hopefully it means you both will be able to support and understand what the other is going through.
-- Jim
-- Jim
ladybug52... well over a week now and still clean! Hope you're doing well too! No, not so bad. We've always smoked on the terrace (wife's a clean freak around the house) even in the winter, so not having to deal with her secondhand smoke . She works at the hospital and always breaks with her smoking buds. This is going to be real real difficult for her to quit.
jmjm530 - Getting the kit for the wife. She's five years younger than me and the idea of putting wrinkles on her face is her biggest motivator .. lol. She sees from some of the older smoking nurses there what it does to the skin.
jmjm530 - Getting the kit for the wife. She's five years younger than me and the idea of putting wrinkles on her face is her biggest motivator .. lol. She sees from some of the older smoking nurses there what it does to the skin.
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