Husband addicted to porn

[Arethereanynamesleft]

I just signed up for this site because a search led me here and i saw that many women have posted about their men's porn watching habits. I will read their posts and hopefully find some answers, but i want to post my own question.

We have been married less than a year, with a baby on the way, yet we have experienced a continuous cycle of him watching porn, me finding it, him promising to quit, me believing him, and then finding it again. This has happened six times in the few years ive known him.

Lest you think im stupid for marrying him, there was a time before we got engaged when he promised he had quit, and i did not find it again until seven months into our marriage. Then i really did feel stupid to discover how naive i was. He lied to my face so many times!

I am cute, fun, not perfect looking like porn stars, but i love sex and have never once denied him and often initiate. He keeps saying he wants to quit and i support him and encorage him even though im so hurt. But he just keeps on doing it and tells me what i want to hear. I dont believe a word he says anymore.

I adore him but i think he will never be mine and i cant live like this. I dont want to bring a child into a doomed marriage. I almost think it would be better if i leave him now then have to drag our kids through a painful divorce in the future.

It has happened again last night even I have been trying to be more loving and more sexy than ever. This last time i dont feel so much shock or anger. I feel bitter and defeated. I feel like giving up. Is there any hope for a life with him that i DONT have to share with a bunch of porn stars? Should i just give up and take my life back? If i wasnt pregnant i think i would have left him already but i dont know. I can't imagine life without him but i can't imagine a life of this either.If he is willing to hurt me so much just so he can masturbate, then he clearly doesn't love me.

[regularJoe4839]

Stop making him feel like watching porn is a crime..Its normal, then he won't hide it.  Make sure to have fun together as well.

[Dalubaba]

I believe, if man starts getting more pleasure in actual intercourse, he would ultimately leave porno. For enhancing sexual please few exercise are can be useful. I mentioned few exercise; male deer exercise, female deer exercise, kegel exercise(men and woman can kegel each other) kundlinin yoga.Different postures also can be used. Search good sexual literature and practice new technique.Of course you need cooperation from your partner.

[Mommysboys2]

I recently discovered porn on my bfs porn. He told me he wasn't watching it for a long time...but to me it was the point that he was watching it. It made me feel horrible. I haven't seen any on his phone...but he doesn't take his phone with him anywhere so I guess maybe hes showing me that hes trying. He told me he was sorry and he feels guilty and what not. But on some level I'm not sure I trust him all the way. I told him how I felt and everything and he respected my feelings. If I were to catch him again I'm not sure I could get over it. I'm currently almost 9 months pregnant and we have a 6 yyear old son. I was utterly devastated. Maybe hes addicted and needs help to stop. Maybe he cant do it on his own and for him its easier for you to he mad at him rather than admit to you hes addicted. I know how you feel it ***** and makes you feel really bad about yourself and makes you question everything. Try to ask him if hes addicted and tel him that you are there for him. Wish you the best of luck!