this is a question in reply to the comments recently posted that a man is cheating if he gets a "sexual" massage from a massage parlor. wondering what women think of this topic regarding their own orgasms at similar parlors, if they exist (which is something I'm not aware of).
I think "cheating" is when the other person in the couple does not know what the other person is doing and would be distressed by it if they did. If a person has to lie, evade or cover up an action (to their partner), then it is cheating on them.