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MEN...i also need an honest answer!
gosh, i already feel a little embarassed about posting this question, but i really would like an honest answer! Trying to keep this short,I guess as surprising as it is I have been somewhat naive to the fact that men think large labia minora are disgusting? My husband loves mine (ugh, sorry i am just trying to explain my insecurity)even though i've always felt like I was not sexy "down there". I've asked him about mine before and of COURSE I always get the "i love it" (because he knows if he said anything else he'd never get it! so i will never get a TRUE honest answer) Anyways, the other day a couple of my co workers (one female and one male, sadly regarding a patient)made the remark about a "roast beef *****", and how much would you do "that" for etc (sick, i know)... i had never heard that term but right away I was pretty sure I knew what they were talking about. Just a bit ago I looked up the term online and my suspicions were correct. I truely want to know the general feeling on this. Is it not sexy to have large labia minora? Does having large labia minora mean you have a "loose *****", and are not the "ideal tight..." Sorry to be so descript. Is having larger labia minora mean that your tendency to smell bad down there is greater? Again, I would appreciate honest answers, I am not looking to hear "if your husband enjoys it that is all that matters". I just want to know!!! Thanks to everyone who replies to this.
To be honest, the size of the labia is never a make or break factor when it comes to being attracted to a female. I would not worry about it, and I would accept that your husband likes it. Don't worry. You're fine.
wow, to bad, you missed a great run on this same question a while ago from some poor girl who worried about hers. the general thought on this was that your just awesome the way you are, and that most guys (myself included) are happy enough to
be in bed to begin with, to gripe about something so trivial.
we are all different in some way, spend enough time on the mens health forum and you'll see what we yap and stress about all day. is too small, is it too big, is it ment to be this color, whats this thing on it ?...... you get it ? your cool. worry about the weather instead ! haha l.e.
be in bed to begin with, to gripe about something so trivial.
we are all different in some way, spend enough time on the mens health forum and you'll see what we yap and stress about all day. is too small, is it too big, is it ment to be this color, whats this thing on it ?...... you get it ? your cool. worry about the weather instead ! haha l.e.
thanks, i know its not something i am stressing over, again like i said, my husband is content. but i just really wondered!!! its not something that is going to make me self conscious or anything, i am just truely curious! my coworkers were really making fun of RBP, so i just assumed it was a not so hot quality, you know? i dunno, but thanks.
sorry, did not want to imply that you were stressed in any way.
i'm glad things are cool. l.e.
i'm glad things are cool. l.e.
I'll Diddo L.E. and add....There's no such thing as an ugly vagina (and all the parts that comes with it). And it in no way can it effect your smell down there. That would be a different issue for the ladies to discuss.
My thought is that like that of men with Penis Envy it may be the same with the Ladies with their genital Organs as well.
My opinion as a male that has played the court with many a woman is that be happy with what God Gave you. I say this because a dear lady friend is having to have reconstructive surgery there and has been told that she may not ever have the sexual appearances there she once had. The accident she had was the type that nearly took her life.
TO me a woman's ***** is a form of art that our good God gave you and the same goes for the guys with their cocks and the sizes they are concerned with.
Be grateful for what you have. If you can have sexual Intercourse, or enjoy the sexual act and derive pleasure then be grateful as it can always be worse than what it is.
Lucky
My opinion as a male that has played the court with many a woman is that be happy with what God Gave you. I say this because a dear lady friend is having to have reconstructive surgery there and has been told that she may not ever have the sexual appearances there she once had. The accident she had was the type that nearly took her life.
TO me a woman's ***** is a form of art that our good God gave you and the same goes for the guys with their cocks and the sizes they are concerned with.
Be grateful for what you have. If you can have sexual Intercourse, or enjoy the sexual act and derive pleasure then be grateful as it can always be worse than what it is.
Lucky
oh yes...psyc 101 is coming back to me now. if i remember correctly, "penis envy" is a stage of sexual development that us gals go through when we realize we do not have one. we desire a penis and the power it represents! oh, we fall in love with our mothers and our fathers. better than XXXX today!
as for you boys...its all about "castration anxiety". a time of sexual development when you boys realize you have something hanging when we do not. you fear its about to be chopped off. OUCH! that is why.. my male friends... you always have your hand/s down in your pants. its because of this term (castration anxiety). you are just making sure "its" still there! you never proceeded to the next level of development i guess..LOL!
its all much more complex than that and we have our good buddy freud to thank. you should check it out...it really very facinating.
as for you boys...its all about "castration anxiety". a time of sexual development when you boys realize you have something hanging when we do not. you fear its about to be chopped off. OUCH! that is why.. my male friends... you always have your hand/s down in your pants. its because of this term (castration anxiety). you are just making sure "its" still there! you never proceeded to the next level of development i guess..LOL!
its all much more complex than that and we have our good buddy freud to thank. you should check it out...it really very facinating.
i was not attacking woman, just getting terminology straight for
the other poster. and i myself NEVER fell in love with a family member YUCK !! and i never worried about my penis in the way you described, from day one i saw my penis in the same way darth vader sees his light saber, and the force has been with me ever since. hahaha i love ya oc3, but i just had to respond. sorry l.e.
the other poster. and i myself NEVER fell in love with a family member YUCK !! and i never worried about my penis in the way you described, from day one i saw my penis in the same way darth vader sees his light saber, and the force has been with me ever since. hahaha i love ya oc3, but i just had to respond. sorry l.e.
oh no..no..no..i was totally supporting what YOU said about penis envy to the other poster. i was just talking about freud and his philosophy and got carried away. i do not recall going through any of that myself (although unconsciously). i think i do remember wanting to marry my father which is part of it.
its all so bizarre.
its all so bizarre.
most girls do have a thing for their dads at a certain point,
their very first male figure i guess. most messed up girls i know, had negative relationships with there dads (and step dads) so i guess it's a healthy part of a girls developement. i should have never doubted you anyway.you rule the roost ! l.e.
their very first male figure i guess. most messed up girls i know, had negative relationships with there dads (and step dads) so i guess it's a healthy part of a girls developement. i should have never doubted you anyway.you rule the roost ! l.e.
yes..i DO rule the roost and dont you ever forget it. now its just convincing my husband that i do! LOL...
no, ya cant argue with THE sigmund freud. you were right in saying men dont experience penis envy..its the woman who do. thats why i was supporting you but you decided to go and get it all mixed up..lol.
love ya leaf
no, ya cant argue with THE sigmund freud. you were right in saying men dont experience penis envy..its the woman who do. thats why i was supporting you but you decided to go and get it all mixed up..lol.
love ya leaf
sorry, i had a brain fart, and i needed to be reoriented.
do you have an identical twin sister ? ! hahaha
l.e.
do you have an identical twin sister ? ! hahaha
l.e.
why yes...i do!
no, she is 43, married, kid but we are like twins..best o buds!
i'm just glad you came to your senses. you know that "matter" you were talking about? i got one too!!
no, she is 43, married, kid but we are like twins..best o buds!
i'm just glad you came to your senses. you know that "matter" you were talking about? i got one too!!
no way ?!!! thats wierd, your nice and you never get angry.
i don't get it. l.e.
i don't get it. l.e.
I've been around the block a few times (57yrs) and in my humble opinion, (as well as most of my male friends), larger labia is much, much, sexier than very small. Trust me, for guys, large labia is very much a turn on. I wouldn't worry about it.
Hi,I can tell you that women with large Majora Labias are far more sexy than women with small Majora Labias.Also it has been proven that women with larger Major Labias can climax easier.It is very strange as they are now pumps for women to make there Labias larger,and they are selling very fast.I note you are speaking of the Minora Labia which may produce a loser feeling and sometimes women have surgery for that reason,but women with larger Major Labias most of the time have larger amounts of testosterone in there system making sex better for them.Also for some reason more than likely the larger amount of testosterone also in these women make them have a larger clitoris,making sex more plesant for them and also easier for her to climax.I say more power to the Majora Labias!
Honestly, I have NEVER been concerned about this and nor should you. I had a friend who confided in me that she had the same problem and I felt terrible that she'd been worrying herself about it, because I could care less. Would I want her to care that I am/am not circumcised, am large/small, etc.? Of course not! So why should I care if a girl's labia are smaller and larger than others? Your husband may be being honest; if you had no vagina, he'd love you.
I know the original post is old but I hope you read this. Nothing is wrong with roast beef, it is a term used to describe a thick hanging snatch. The best part is that it lends more to play with during oral sex. I havent seen an ugly vagina and you have no worries.
I know this is an old post. Should you waunder back and read this then great. I love large lips. When I meet a new woman I love to reach into her pants or up her skirt and when I feel her ***** I just go nuts when I feel those full fat lips. It makes me get so excited that I can hardly wait to take her panties off (if she is wearing any) and start to feel, suck, lick and **** her awesome lips. I envy your hubsand for having a woman who has such an awesome asset.
It's a really nice and uplifting message to say "you are beautiful ..., you are special and your large labia is beautiful." However, although unspoken by many "sensitive men," the truth is most men prefer small "tucked in" labias. Why? One reason is that men are programmed (not by culture but by nature/genes) to be attracted to symetry and all thing symetrical. It's all about the left brain, folks. John Stossel (ABC) once had a special on this. I suppose that the small "tucked in" vagina appears more symetrical, while the largia labia appears asymetrical and perhaps even confusing. Still, to be too critical of large labias would be to criticize the one who created them, "GOD," for those who are religiously inclined. Although you don't want to hear it, your husband loves YOU - and not just for sex. I have always seen my ex girlfriends as "best friends" first, and not thinking of them only in a sexual way. They were people first, afterall.
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