premature ejaculation while penetrating during sexual intercoures

[soyer]

Hello, ime 28years old and i have a problam with ejaculting to fast, no matter how many times i have sex with my girlfriend, 2,4,6 even 10 times in an evening i just can`t hold it back no matter what i think of, my girlfriend also has a problam of not being able to orgasm fast, so you can see our problam, i just want to be able to take my time (which i do with forplay) but take my time penatraiting her slow as well as fast to bring her to orgasm with me, so we can make love together aswel as sex. Can you help me with this problam which will eventualy be the downfull of our sexlife, maybe even relationship.
Thankyou for taking the time to read and hopfully help me with a problam thats been their for years.
Thankyou again and regards
soyer.

[hellomedi]

Take SSRI especially fluxotine HCL or seroxate before foreplay.
It increase the ejaculation time.
Although i m not married and seeking help in overcoming nocturnal + premature ejacultion. These medicines help but their effect last for 1 to 2 month after starting but 100% gurantee u it works

[soyer]

wow! thanks 4 the replys:-)sorry i`ve taken so long 2 reply but i just got back from athens(greece), it was a trip 2 c my greek familey(my mothers side).....regarding my reqwest 4 answers on my problam, i was thinking that i didnt give enough info on it before. i was being overly paranoide thinking it would b the start of the end of our sex, and life together.what a prat! our love life is amazing i dont know what i was thinking:-(. ive never felt like this with any girl in my entire life its out of this world:-), she tells me time an time agian how i make her feel sexually and about her looks, when i told her what i wrote she laughed and said how cute and thoughtfull  i was 2 even consider how 2 make love making between us better and most of all, thinking about ways 2 give her the most mind blowing s-- she has ever had in her life. The thing is i dont rush unless we hav 2, ive never been so considoret with a women in my life, i love 2 touch and feel her body and watch her reactions closely and like people hav said penatration comes at the end, :-). I've tried every little trick apart from reading any books, i just wanted 2 see if thier was any tricks or some kind of ecsersises that could help me go longer, i dont mean hours on end, i mean about 1,2,3 or even 5 mins longer, the amount of times ive built her up, given her clitoral orgasm and shes shouting in pleasure 4 me 2 get inside her and go like a rabbit, i always seem 2 fall short, and blow b-4 her, every   single time..... It was making me nervouse about us until i spoke out about it, thank god its not, she tells me all the time how much i please her and how much she loves me, i cant believe how lucky i am......but all the love sick puppy stuff aside, is their any thing out there?
  Me,..... Soyer.

[sunseeker]

You don't indicate what "too fast" is.  1 minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes?  I too find myself ejaculating sooner than I want to  and would like to know what works in prolonging an erection.  I don't know what the "average" time is but I've heard that if you stay in one position, most men are only good for 3 minutes (or less).  Have you tried pulling out and change positions often.  Also,  doggie style puts me over the edge in under 30 seconds so I go there when I want to finish quickly.

[monkeyflower]

Well, if you're waiting for your gf to orgasm through intercourse, you're probably going to be waiting a long, long time. About 70% of women need direct clitoral stimulation, and can't come from intercourse alone. So I'd give up that thought entirely, and focus on what else you can do to pleasure each other. Trust me, intercourse is only the teeniest part of sex.

Rapid ejaculation is usually a result of anxiety, and it sounds like you're awfully anxious about lasting long enough, her orgasming, and orgasming together/"making love". Making love is NOT about coming together - in fact, very few couples ever do come together, and almost never always come together. It's about appreciating each other, enjoying each other's pleasure, and appreciating and enjoying YOUR OWN pleasure. You might read some books about tantric sex for some ideas along those lines.

And definitely read "Great Sex" by Michael Castleman. The kind of sex he advocates, slow, massage-oriented, total body sex, will not only help you slow down and relax (and alleviate the rapid ejaculation), but is exactly the kind of sex most women love. In the meantime, you can practice lasting longer while masturbating. Learn to tune into your feelings and sensations, learn what it feels like when you're close to coming and when you've reached the point of no return. Then you can start playing with stopping once you're close to coming, and eventually incorporate this into your partner sex as well. It is not a quick fix, it will take time to learn and time to relax, but I think it's well worth it for an entire lifetime of satisfying, pleasurable sex :-)

[Nazzy19]

I would do what you're doing and lead up to it with foreplay. Just keep doing that for a bit then if she tells you shes close then thats when you start having sex.

[siren of the sea]

there are ways to build up your timing. im sure there are books out there to help if talking to your dr or a sex therapist is out of the question. i had a boyfriend that would stop for a bit to let it timing of orgasm pass then go again . hopefully this wont end your relationship. things sometimes need time to work it out and get it right!