Hi,
I understand this is hard for you. Try taking pain relievers for your headaches. Take these pain relievers only when necessary. I suggest this only for the meantime when it is not feasible to seek a consult with a physician due to your insurance concerns.
If your headaches occur at least 4 times a week then you may need to have this classified so that you may at least be prescribed appropriate therapy.
Do you have any other associated symptoms?
It is not unusual for persons suffering from headaches to experience some form of twitching or tenderness over the eye area. It is important however to establish that these are caused by benign headaches and other factors such as an underlying neurologic condition has been ruled out.
Place a cold compress over the head when the headaches occur. Aromatherapy and daily relaxing massage may be able to help alleviate the pain. You may try to be more creative in this aspect. Try soothing scents like lavender and listen to soft music at most times of the day. Headaches have environmental and psychological components and I believe giving yourself time to relax and heal will be able to help.
Just wanted to clarify when I said "symptoms of MS" I meant that some people have been diagnosed with MS & then later come to find out that aspartame in their diet has been giving them symptoms like those of MS but they really don't have MS. Once the aspartame is removed their symptoms go away because they never had MS. Aspartame is just one of the excito toxins which can cause this. It is made from an Amino acid which throws the rest of your amino acids off balance. Delicate balance can be thrown off so easily by man messing with things he shouldn't.
My headaches started out the same way - with eye twitches. I still to this day have the eye twictch & headaches and sorry to tell you it's been 30 years. I recently discovered that some symptoms of MS (which includes your symptoms) can be caused by too many excito toxins. See this site for more info: www.createvibranthealth.com/NT.htm
Sure hope you find a cure soon. Also, your husband sounds like so many people that can't understand someone elses pain unless they experience it themselves. It's real, you are not lazy, you are suffering, you are not just stressed. Sounds like you're on the right track though since you are doing your own research.